Topic: I just lost my father.

He passed away suddenly of a heart attack at 71. This is the first time I've ever lost a loved one and I'm kinda losing it right now.

@Zeldafan79 Thats really sad to hear, I'm really sorry this happened to you, R.I.P, I hope he lived a long and happy life.

@Zeldafan79, sad to hear it. I lost my grandpa on my dad's side & grandma on my mom's side in back to back years recently, and while it's not the same as losing a parent, I can feel where you're coming from. Best wishes for your family.

Why would you even bother writing that?

@Zeldafan79 - Sincerest condolences and so sorry for your loss mate. Never easy losing a loved one, let alone a parent, and a parent you were obviously close to. Whatever you're feeling now can ease with time, but I believe you never truly get over the loss of a loved one. They leave a void that cannot be filled. But it will get better for you.

Be sure to reach out on here or to any services you feel you might need to help deal with it all, if you feel like you need it. There's no shame in any of it.

@Zeldafan79 I'm really sorry to hear, man.<3

I'm trying to prepare myself for when the time comes for my parents, which could be soon. They just found a crotid artery in my mom, she's 75. My dad has a pace maker for afib, he's 82. I've never lived near extended family, and have very little experience with passing of close loved ones. And it worries me.

He'd been having blood sugar problems and recently had to have a catheter put in. He was just at the hospital for the last three days and I guess he went while they were working on him. I guess I got alot of things to think about. I didn't think it would be that sudden.

I never even hugged the guy. He wasn't really the mushy type but i hope he knew i appreciated him.

Dang man, that’s rotten news. My condolences to you and your family. It’s something we gotta go through if you’re lucky to live long enough, but that doesn’t make it easy. I’m a dad, even when my kids are screaming at me, I know they still love me. I’m sure you showed that in ways other than physical contact.

@Zeldafan79 very sorry to hear that my dude. I realize I'm just a rando on the internet, but my heart goes out to you and yours.

Thanks for all the nice comments. I don't have alot of people in the real world to talk to so this helps.

@Zeldafan79 I’m really sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and family. It’s hard and painful right now but it’ll get easier with time. Stay strong and around close friends and family.

@Zeldafan79 My condolences and my heart also goes out to you and your family. Really sorry to hear about your father - RIP. I lost my grandfather when I was 9...it wasn't an easy time.

@Zeldafan79 Real world? this is sorta the real world, I mean we can talk to you, and were real. so don't sweat it.

Oh, @Zeldafan79, I'm so sorry to hear that and for your loss. It must be a difficult time for you and your family. Just try to support one another as best you can.
My condolences.

Such flippant remarks such as 'okay' and 'F' are highly disrespectful. Hope a moderator can do the honours.

I completely and absolutely agree with you. That wasn't cool at all...

Edit: They're deleted. Good!

@MarioLover92 sorry for your loss. There’s not many things in life that are more difficult to deal with than the loss of a loved one. But it is something you learn to cope with in your own time and learn to appreciate the good memories you had together.

@Pirate1 Thank you, and I agree 100%. It has happened pretty much 20 years ago, so I've certainly coped with it - I still miss the guy though. But I'm staying strong nonetheless.

I'm really sorry for your loss. I've lost my first girlfriend due to a car crash a few years ago and it's probably the worst thing that ever happened to me. From my experience all I can say is that you should take all the time you need, don't rush things. Happier days will come in the future but right now don't be afraid to cry, scream and be sad. We are here for you. @Zeldafan79

@Zeldafan79 : May God rest his soul and give you patience during this ordeal. I am saddened to hear of your loss and wish you and your loved ones every ease.

I too have been fortunate in that I haven't lost anybody very close to me despite my age (apart from three of my grandparents, and they have all lived overseas for the most part), and I don't know how I will cope on the inevitable day that someone very close to me passes away.

I am also saddened to hear of the lack of "mushiness" (to borrow a term) between you two. I think it's far more common than many of us care to admit and I think it is important to maintain such ties with others, and to at least try to break down those walls, because it makes such an enormous difference, even if you cannot express that "mushiness" to immediate family. I was quite adverse to hugging others for many years, but it makes such a world of difference, especially if you can find somebody, be they platonic friends, family members, or an intimate who you can at least feel comfortable expressing that sort of affection with. It can be awkward at first, but there had come such a time where others were often commenting on my hugs (which was quite embarrassing, really), and I'll sometimes playfully tease somebody if their hug isn't reciprocated to my satisfaction. With circumstances being as they are right now in Sydney, I am desperately yearning to hold somebody in my arms, and I would certainly extend such a gesture to you without hesitation if we were closer in proximity.

For what it is worth, I will pray for your father and your family when I get home from work today. At times like these, I wish I could at least attribute a name and face to the online alias. Either way, He knows my intentions. My heart goes out to you, my brother. Peace be with you.