Think of this as her dipping her toe in the water. If she gets away with it, she's going to go after a bigger haul next time. You need to deal with this now man.
Also, what was the crooked AAA GameCube title? We are all wondering......
Edit: If you decide not to dump her. Replace your money with this note and make sure she gets an oppurtunity to look in there. It could scare her straight.
I'll tell you same way like I'd tell my best friend if it happened to him, she's a no-good, conniving thief and perhaps worse.
Let me guess - she wasn't there long before asking you for the water, right? She came to your place on a mission to steal your money. Premeditation. Then she asks you to fetch her some water to distract you while she does so. Conniving schemer. It was NOT a "crime of convenience" as it might have been if she were, say, doing your laundry (calm down, I'm not being sexist here) and came across 20 bucks wrinkled in your pocket and kept it without telling you. I don't even need to qualify here how disrespectful her actions were.
I'd broom her fast, dude. You got a whole lot more to lose than the remaining 80 bucks, if you know what I mean.
I agree 100% with this. And you got to do something soon, or she will just think she can take advantage of you more.
say you misplaced 20$ and ask her if she saw it last time she was at ur house, the watch her reaction, if she gets defensive she did it, also replace ur $ with cut out rectangles with money written on them
1.Replace the money with a note that says "WE'RE THROUGH, BEEEEYOOOOOOT..." well you know where I'm going with that note. 2. Invite her over and chill for a minute or so in your bedroom. 3. Ask her if she'd like a glass of water. 4. Leave the room. 5. ... 6. PROFIT!
(was that one step too many?)
edit: or take off and nuke the ENTIRE site from orbit. It's the only way to be sure.
Don't ask her. That's awkward. Don't hint at it, that's pathetic. She's not dating you for your money if you only have a hundred or so in a Mario box, she obviously likes you enough to be with you for one reason or another so cherish that and keep letting it grow until she can ask you for what she wants instead of feeling like she has to steal it. If she asked for 20 bucks you would have given it to her, right? Maybe you need to treat her like you're a little more giving, depending on the seriousness of your relationship. Buy her more gifts or give her more compliments. Ignore the crap other people have to say about her, everybody knows everybody differently. Only break up with her her if you feel in your heart it's time to split. You don't need advice besides this: get your ducks in a row. Your girlfriend just stole money from you. How do you interpret that? How do you go about fixing whatever it is that makes her feel like she needs to go behind your back, without mentioning the incident? Just act and adapt to the situation quickly and with a clear mind. Don't hold it in and get all quiet and emotional. She won't understand and she'll end up leaving you if it goes on too long, and bottled emotions never go away entirely. They leave little stains, and eventually things get too messy and can't be fixed. If you're really cool and know how to not let things stain you and even try your best to clean other people's stains, good things will come your way. If you absolutely MUST hint at it, however, watch the episode of Seinfeld with her where Jerry realizes that everything balances out in the end. You know the one.
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Thank you all for your support. I just talked with her and decided to just flat-out confront her with it. I told her that I didn't care about the money, I just wanted an honest answer. She told me that she swore she did not take my money. Even though I'm 99% sure it was her, I told her I believed her and that was the end of it. She doesn't know it, but she is on very thin ice and if something like this happens again and this wasn't just a misunderstanding/accident, It's over. Again, thank you to everyone who took the time to listen to my issues and try and help.
I'll tell you same way like I'd tell my best friend if it happened to him, she's a no-good, conniving thief and perhaps worse.
Let me guess - she wasn't there long before asking you for the water, right? She came to your place on a mission to steal your money. Premeditation. Then she asks you to fetch her some water to distract you while she does so. Conniving schemer. It was NOT a "crime of convenience" as it might have been if she were, say, doing your laundry (calm down, I'm not being sexist here) and came across 20 bucks wrinkled in your pocket and kept it without telling you. I don't even need to qualify here how disrespectful her actions were.
I'd broom her fast, dude. You got a whole lot more to lose than the remaining 80 bucks, if you know what I mean.
There are two sides to every story, so I'd at least give her the benefit of the doubt and just ask her if she really needed that money for some sort of emergency. They are both young (I'm assuming, unless bboy is dating a cougar), so young people make mistakes.
I will say that I've never stolen from a friend, however.
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I was going to say that you're being paranoid and I doubt she stole $20 from your little Mario box. But it seems you already confronted her and now she feels like you don't trust her.
If stuff like this had been happening often I would say to go ahead and deal with it, but it seems like an isolated incident that could easily have been you miscounting/mis-remembering.
i would torture her...psychologically of course! make her breakfast, and arrange some part of the breakfast so it would look like a 20. tell her; "i saw 20 ducks cross over the street in front of me", or dogs, horses, whatever....say; "i bought 20 different candies today, want some?".....and uhh....say; "today at the supermarket, they gave me a 20 dollar change in 1 dollar bills....can you believe it?" etc etc. whatever suits the situation and it should blend well in the conversation. and after a day or two of doing so (if u are sadistic and creative you can do it a whole week) u can confront her and ask her about the money.
bear trap sounds nice too....should be good to hear when it clings when you're around.
Thank you all for your support. I just talked with her and decided to just flat-out confront her with it. I told her that I didn't care about the money, I just wanted an honest answer. She told me that she swore she did not take my money. Even though I'm 99% sure it was her, I told her I believed her and that was the end of it. She doesn't know it, but she is on very thin ice and if something like this happens again and this wasn't just a misunderstanding/accident, It's over. Again, thank you to everyone who took the time to listen to my issues and try and help.
Why did you ask her if you weren't prepared to believe her?
@WaltzElf: considering the circumstances, i think a healthy amount of caution in further dealings with his girlfriend is probably in order (or at least caution in being so open about his money and/or valuables). he doesn't have to believe her, he just has to be more careful.
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@WaltzElf: considering the circumstances, i think a healthy amount of caution in further dealings with his girlfriend is probably in order (or at least caution in being so open about his money and/or valuables). he doesn't have to believe her, he just has to be more careful.
Then he shouldn't have asked for an "honest answer" if he wasn't prepared to accept what she said.
Beyond that, if he didn't want her to have access to his money, he probably shouldn't leave it lying around for her to take.
I'm pretty sure that your "girlfriend" stealing your money (without asking you first ) is a big deal. I would do what everybody else has mentioned and confront here to see if she acts odd and if she does, then break up. I'm pretty sure that you'd rather be single and in a financially stable situation instead of having a girlfriend and being broke. I know I would.
EDIT: Doh! I didn't see that the problem was already resolved. Oh well.
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Well it depends, if you've been going out with her for a little while and you all really like each other than ask for the $20 back or at least an apology, if she fails to do both or if you all are new to the relationship my reaction would be to try to resolve it. If you can't end it. Then again I'm just 13 so what do I know, but with experience try to keep a girlfriend if you have one and only break up if you are having a lot of troubles.
@WaltzElf: considering the circumstances, i think a healthy amount of caution in further dealings with his girlfriend is probably in order (or at least caution in being so open about his money and/or valuables). he doesn't have to believe her, he just has to be more careful.
Then he shouldn't have asked for an "honest answer" if he wasn't prepared to accept what she said.
Beyond that, if he didn't want her to have access to his money, he probably shouldn't leave it lying around for her to take.
face it, asking for a 'honest answer' is pretty much relationship code for 'i know what you did, just tell me what i already know and we can work things out'. she failed the test. anyway, he thought he could trust her, and he got burned. he'll know better next time.
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