Topic: Getting blocked in the comments.

@gcunit so from my post am I “woke” or “anti-woke”? I think your reply to my post perfectly sums up my earlier post about people not being able to read tone or confusing the actual message. Nothing I’ve said is condescending. The examples I’ve given are true. One user blocked anyone that said anything positive about Hogwarts. That’s because they can’t handle a differing view.

I’m a fully paid up member of the wokerati. I’d never use the term snowflake. Those that use the term as an insult are usually the ones that melt against anyone that disagrees. Again. This has turned personal. Not sure why. I apologise if I triggered anything for you. I can assure you my posts were meant to encourage tolerance and peace and understanding. For you it clearly had the opposite effect and I apologise for that.

I’m also interested who is the victim I’m blaming?

I’m confused by all of it tbh.

Is there a victim on a forum thread about Mario Vs Kong?

@Stocksy You are right. I am just that curious on what I have triggered.

It is probably a good thing that people can have their safe retreat from the evils of internet

@Stocksy If it feels personal, that wasn't my intention. If I felt your post I quoted was truly representative of the wider point I was making, I'd have just stuck you on my Ignore list 😉 As per my post above, I don't bother with online arguments.
It was just that your post reminded me of earlier condescending posts that were a bit blunter and not to my taste.

I wasn't saying you were woke or anti-woke, I was referring to myself, and my use of the term 'victim-blaming', which I kinda associate the with 'woke movement' of the past 5 years or so. Those kind of terms are a bit cringe for me, because of how over-used they've become in media/social media, so I generally avoid using them, but for this thread making an exception felt appropriate. That was the point I was trying to make there. I'm all for equality and diversity etc., I just tend not to engage in the online heat surrounding the subject.

Let's not start the whole 'woke' convo here, please

The reality of this scenario is more likely the user didn't block you because they couldn't cope with a different view, but rather blocked you because you couldn't cope with a differing view and they knew you'd turn it into an argument that wasn't going to go anywhere (or would get removed from the mods anyway).

BTW, I'm not aiming this at you personally @gcunit - just the hypothetical 'me' in your quote.

@dmcc0 That's basically what happened to me. I found something offensive and (foolishly) pointed it out. Although I tried to be polite, it was still very much me not coping by bringing up the topic. Granted, I think it could have been resolved with mutual understanding if the conversation had gone more than 2 messages, but the other person decided to instantly cut off an unnecessary argument which I suppose is fair.

@FishyS I think that's quite petty to block/ignore for that to be honest - I think if you find something offensive then you're quite right to point it out (or just report it if you can't be bothered with the potential fallout). If the other user doesn't agree or keeps posting stuff you find offensive then you should be ignoring them, not the other way around.

I was thinking more of a situation where users have a differing opinion on something and one user just won't accept the others' opinion as valid (they don't have to agree with it) and they feel the need to try and prove they are right by turning it into argument.

I'm not going to name names, but I've been in that situation here fairly recently and when it became clear to me that the other user was only interested in 'winning' I tried to diffuse the situation by saying we should probably just leave it at that and agree to disagree. At that point they got quite aggressive and basically said that was a cop out and challenged me to trash their opinion if I thought it was so bad. In hindsight I probably should've just stuck them on the ignore list at that point, but I responded to a couple more messages before I eventually ignored them. I'm pretty sure most of the conversation got deleted by the mods at that point. I've since removed them from the ignore list, but tend to just avoid any interactions with them now.

@dmcc0 Communication is hard 😆 We all get annoyed or offended by different things. Although I agree ignoring is a better way to stop an unwanted argument than blocking, or at least the more polite way. I always wonder how many people have me ignored since it is impossible to tell. I'm sure a few do. 😅

@FishyS I pretty much try to avoid getting annoyed or offended by different opinions on stuff like games and media, and if I do see an opinion that is different than mine and one I might disagree with, I still respect the opinion and I avoid engaging or interacting in order to avoid causing arguments or flame wars, because some people do react in more angry and different ways rather than calmly disagreeing.

There was this article Nintendo Life made back in May where they were talking about a game emulator. I am pretty much open to game emulation as long as the games are old games, are not being sold anymore, or if the emulator is not doing anything illegal and trying to make a profit. Several of the comments were in favor of emulation on that article, however, there was this opinion someone else stated in there that I don't know if it was made to troll or was a genuine opinion. I believe the comment was removed so I can't recall it all and might get some things wrong, but the comment was something like "game emulation is illegal and you should never emulate any game, even if it is old and no longer being sold!" or something along those lines. I saw the comment and was going to respond to it as I heavily disagreed with it, but I decided not to go through with that because I worried that I would cause bad blood between me and the person and a possible argument in the comments. If I do see opinions that are different than mine, I never get offended and respect them, but I avoid interacting with the comments to not start any possible wars, cuz you pretty much don't know if the person will respond to your counterargument in a nice or harsh way.

Anti-Matter seems to have blocked me. What a shame, i loved seeing his weird takes

@Groovz He blocked half of the community according to what I have read. I have never had an argument with him and he blocked me, maybe because I criticised certain games? I didn't love seeing his weird takes like you, but his English is hilarious and made me laugh secretly. Anyway, I just found this thread because I noticed comments from him and others, checked the site and found out that blocks have disappeared and become ignores. Why is that?

I see what @gcunit means and it made me post my opinion. I used to be very active and now I can be out of here for months, don't miss it and I have learnt many things. I know some people hate me just because I have criticised Nintendo. I have been harassed, even. I really don't care if someone disagrees with me. I think it's normal to disagree, but like gcunit, I find very irritating when it gets personal and persistent. I think one disagreement is enough, you don't have to keep repeating the same to the same person. It's unpleasant. Besides what he said about flies, I think that an even better example is... real life. Yes, real life. I'm friendly in person, but if I don't like someone, I try to avoid that person and I don't want to feel forced to talk to that person. Of course, if someone wants to have a friendly exchange and even disagree politely with me, I'm in, but here, on the internet, some people try to force you to argue, rudely, demanding, like if they had the right to bother you... It feels unnatural and uncomfortable and a waste of energy and time I could spend enjoying other comments and takes. My favourite comments here (and on PX) are the ones that are wise, e.g., explaining the history of an IP or about games I know little about, and honest opinions about games, like the thread about Pikmin I took part in yesterday.

@Banjo-

https://www.pushsquare.com/forums/help_feedback_suggestions/c...

Block feature was causing issues. I've seen it anger and alienate people on here and PushSquare (wouldn't surprise me if it happened on PX as well), so after enough user agitation, they made it where you have to contact the staff to have someone blocked.

Only makes sense. Ignoring is all a person really needs in their control. It doesn't make sense to give normal users the power to affect the user experience of others.

Today, I "overheard" people in comments talking about me, that had ignored me without me realizing it. I feel a kind of shame and hurt feelings that I haven't felt since highschool. I genuinely feel ridiculous, but that is how it is.

I hope everybody that can still see my comments knows that I genuinely want to engage, offer different perspectives and talk things out. I love this community, and Nintendo games, and many connections that I've made on here ✌️

This thread helped me through a different but similar situation a while back, so I thought to return here to vent my feelings. thanks for hearing me out. peace, y'all.

@The_Nintendo_Expat I wouldn't take it too personally; I suspect essentially all of us regular posters are being ignored by a few users. Some people get offended or annoyed by random things and some people just mass ignore tons of people for various reasons.

I admit it used to kind of get me down also but most people on this site are friendly enough and being ignored is really no different than not literally everyone in a crowded room wanting to talk to you.

Certainly take a break if you'd like, but don't let the internet randos get you down.

@FishyS

thanks, that's genuinely helpful. ♥️ I take your point, expecting to be liked by literally everyone on here is just like expecting ot anywhere else in the world. I guess I was just taken aback a little: it was one person, then another, then another, some of whom I hold in good esteem and have enjoyed our exchanges on here, not terribly long ago. Worse, the posts were only about me and are gathering likes, it feels pretty bad ngl.

I know I can be a bit blunt, and definitely opinionated. It's just a bit of whiplash to find out that others left a convo feeling negatively that I found expository or constructive. I certainly didnt mean to be passive aggressive or confrontational as one person put it.

anyway. I'm really getting in my head over it, and it's not worth it. Thanks again for talking me through it. I did edit my post to take some of the "you wont have me to kick around anymore" vibe, which isnt really necessary obv. I think I'll just stick to the forums for a while, it doesn't seem like my perspective is terribly appreciated in the comments these days, and thats fine. it is what it is!

@The_Nintendo_Expat 😁hey man, long time no see! I see you’re under a different username haha.
I can totally see your intentions here, and I completely sympathize both on a second hand and first hand front.
😛see, I’d like to think that I leave at least neutral to above average impression here, with the worst something that someone could get out of me would be simply not getting a joke I made or thinking I may have overhyped a game or two. If someone genuinely felt the need to permanently disengage with me, I consider it a loss for them, not for me, ya get me? 😉

But perhaps that’s too idealistic, and I getchu, I do still sympathize with your struggle first hand though and I’m gonna explain what I meant by that. Back in 2024, I left all 3 sites due to a strange falling out with a user whom I’ve had nothing but positive experiences with. He made me happy and i seemingly made him happy with zero signs of ill conflict. That is one day I expressed a slightly different opinion from him on elden ring (fitting, given the fandom’s reputation in that game) and that lead to a pretty unfortunate block. He was a frequent user, so I was actually harmed for doing nothing at all. I announced taking a vacation from the site for that exact reason, and I will confess I extended it from months to two years because seeing him and never getting closure on the matter did ultimately sting more than WCW’s 2000 run. So there’s a bit of hypocrisy on my end.

But hypocrisy, democracy, bureaucracy, who cares! There’s still people who care about you, and that’s a generic excuse, I did genuinely wonder where you went for a while (I wasn’t aware of your username change), so it’s nice getting a little reunion. Your thread here about friendships falling off is ironically what led to us forming our tiny internet friendship in the first place and I do treasure that, you made funny comments and I made silly comments too so we were practically a match.

If it helps you feel better in any way, people on the hookshot forums do listen to vents. When I made a big deal about it two years ago, both my friends and ant sympathized with me which led to the block feature being permanently altered, so bless their hearts. They’re the reason I wanted to post again hehe.

So I hope this doesn’t deter you from the forums much. There’s still people who wanna see you post, so that’s something to think about while you take time to meditate and reflect. The sad reality is that fallouts are inevitable, we can only move forward.

Peace & Love ✌️ ♥️

@The_Nintendo_Expat

I can relate to that feeling, for sure. My humour doesn’t always land and with some it seems to be very off putting. I don’t intend it to be; I think it’s just a difference in personality. They are free to block me but I will never block them as I quite enjoy experiencing wildly varying points of view.

Anyway, I have always enjoyed your input and I’m sure there are many others here who feel the same!

@Yousef-

hello, old friend! I noticed your absence and it is great to hear from you again! 😊

I appreciate your story. You might remember that mine was similar when I first made this thread. getting blocked by a prolific lifer sucks! I still see others replying to their comments, to this day, but I'm still blocked. I'm over it, but I still felt like the offending "argument" we had was not so bad that I deserved to be blocked. I am generally careful to support my arguments with reason and facts, and not "cross the line" with ad hominems or personal attacks.

but, they took it personally, and as you say, I can see it as a loss for them as all I've ever tried to do is get my honest perspective out there so that we can all appreciate our similarities and differences. ✌️

anyhoo, yeah, I changed my name a couple times, it's a long story 😅 or maybe it isn't: someone suggested (in a good natured way) "The Nintendo Pedant" as a nom de plume for me in comments, and I liked it and took it, not realizing I couldnt just switch back immediately 😂 and then when Switch 2 came out, I got a Steamdeck instead. Having a non Nintendo system for the first time in 20 years felt like a big change for me, so I changed it again as a sort of tongue-in-cheek, but it seems like a lot of people started seeing me as a troll at that point, rather than a Nintendo fan who sees my favorite games company in a bit of a creative rut at the moment, which is the actual truth. Thus, I've considered going back to my original screen name, based on my real life name. ✌️

thank you so much for reaching out! It is genuinely wonderful to hear from you. I intend to post in the forums and avoid the comments, as I feel this is just kind of a healthier place in generally, and a better platform for my style of posting, in the first place. I hope to see you around here! ✌️♥️

@amongtheworms

I appreciate your supportive words! I can't say i wasnt fishing a bit with my post, I knew there were still people here that I was a bit more aligned with and it feels good to hear from y'all. I'm going to avoid commenting on articles for a while and stick to the forums, as my counterpoints just dont seem to be landing there anymore. 👍

I've always enjoyed your posts as well! I feel as though many Nintendolife members wish to have a simple unified cheer squad in the comments, and when the obvious is pointed out in many cases they will resort to ad hominems and equivocation to maintain that perspective. Obviously they are entitled to their opinion, but they are not entitled to all of that, I would say.

anyway groupthink is not my thing, and I consider critical thinking to be essential to learning and improving, so I think I c{me off negative to them more than anything. and, yeah my sense of humor often simply does not land at all 🥳 it's whatever!

@The_Nintendo_Expat
How could anybody ignore those who enjoy a good 80's/90's anthology series?
Time to get back to Monsters 'A Bond of Silk'

16:25 is when the party starts!