Topic: I Need Advise... 🤔

Not sure how to word this but I'll try... I'm an autistic millennial girl. I think a guy in one of the classes I'm taking is around the same age as me & also has autism. I think he likes me. How can I be sure? Been wrong in the past when it came to high school year's ago. Just don't want to read into something if I'm wrong. Also I've only dated once when I was 15 & ended up braking up with the guy with in a week... So I don't have alot of dating experience. I almost had 2 dates in high school for homecoming one of my friends tried to hook me up on a blind date with a guy that had anger management issues & another friend tried to hook me up with a person who was severely disabled in diapers... 🤦‍♀️ Needless to say I ended up going to homecoming by myself & had a blast back then but no real dating experience tbh...

My advice, just ask. Don't let it worry you. Life is all about calculating risk. If it doesn't work out it's not the end of the world. There will always be other people to meet.

I wish you all the best!

@Barbiegurl777 I had some recommendations, but I deleted it, because my ideas were all dependant on a level of social interaction, friendliness or goofy, that I'm not sure is helpful for someone with autism. If you check your email notifications, though, you can read it. Forgive me if I was hasty in deleting my post.

Honestly this is the best place to ask about this sort of thing. You might want to ask some of your personal friends or your family for this sort of advice.

@Barbiegurl777 Without wanting to appear rude or insensitive, I'm going to ignore that you've said you're both autistic, simply because I don't know enough about it to tailor my post around it.

What would you prefer - finding out instantly, or playing with the dynamics a bit first? You could just straight up ask them how they feel, but let's face it, that's an awkward conversation for most people. Maybe over the keyboard is a preferable alternative to face-to-face ...?

Instead, you could invite them to a casual social occasion - have you established if you've got any shared interests?

Or you could keep it cute and just try to up your flirtation with them gradually. A few winks and coquettish grins at them in class, gauge their response.

@Barbiegurl777 Hey there, as @Tasuki mentioned this probably isn't the best forum for this type of advice. Wish you all the best with this!

I'll go with @exit's 'just ask', @Barbiegurl777 .... Good luck with that

I think the mod forgot to lock the thread after saying ask someone else.

To me the question isn't what should I do but more along the lines of I'm scared of the risk of being rejected and the courting process is awkward to me. Both are normal for people to feel but there's no universal solution to it as what works for one person wont work for another. The best thing I can say is think of it like going to the dentist it's just something you got to find the courage for to get that part out of the way to move onto the fun dating part.

@DreamlandGem I hope you don't find this too confrontational, but what is your concern about whether this is the 'best' forum for topics such as this? This forum has a pretty healthy, respectful community going on - a place where some users have been active for many years and feel comfortable seeking personal advice here. That strikes me as a positive feature of these forums, worthy of upholding and nurturing, rather than discouraging. Would it be ok, if you didn't have any positive contribution to make to a thread that isn't causing any problems, for you to just stand back and let them be?

@gcunit Chances are good, someone will come along and say something insane, or terribly mean, because internet. Things regarding dating, sex, mental health: I've seen them start out fine in here, but there's almost always some immature/troll/jackass/massive-idiot that comes and ruins the vibe. DreamlandGem is just trying to get ahead of that.

@gcunit @WoomyNNYes Hey there! Yes while I totally agree that the comments here have been very civil, helpful & respectful this sadly isn't always the case. There are a few factors that go into locking topics such as this which I won't go too much into, but a lot of the time with more personal threads the advice isn't always as constructive and sometimes damaging. Hope that helps clear things up & I hope you all have a great weekend! ❤