Topic: Incels

If you don't know what 'incels' are it's a shorthand for "involuntary celibates", essentially men (mostly) who feel like they had been somehow wronged by fate/conspiracy/society/culture/times/chain of events/social injustice/genes/nature (whatever reason, usually thought of as beyond their control) to not find a sexual/romantic partner. They are left "frustrated" often wronged and they take it out on others who have normal relationships or attractive women (usually the object of their desires).

If I had gotten this definition, please correct me.

I've come across the concept and term years ago online (when I was more active in different boards in college)...but recently it seems this community/idea has reached the mainstream (ie outside of internetz) with recent violent acts such as those in April 2018's Toronto Incel van attack, wherein a self proclaimed incel terrorist ran his van onto a group of people, supposedly because of such rage. Not to portray all incels as violent terrorists, but atm it seems those who are just hearing about this mainstream, seem to think they are (because of media coverage).

As I was reading other posts here, I feel like there's a good portion of people here that are averse to romantic relationships (obviously not necessarily 'inceldom' but I thought some here might be...)

I just wanted to understand the 'frustration' and how one come to identify as an incel.

I myself (like I mentioned here before) has not had "some" (lol) in a couple of years (although there were years when there were a plenty) but I don't think I'm frustrated to the point that I want to hate other people because I can't get "some" nor would I ever feel like the world has created a conspiracy to keep me thirsty enough to hate it.

I'd been rejected a lot in the past (I think most men had been by the time they're in HS), some in very embarrassing/ego hurting ways, but I usually took it out on myself more than I ever did on the women, and for the most part they hurt for a second but I soon forget or get over it.

Do incels get just get into a very traumatizing rejection event and get a form of PTSD on women?

Someone told me once in a message board that "most incels are gamers" or something along those lines...is that a fair supposition? And if it is true, why do you think gaming culture leads them to be incels?

Please be respectful. I know some people might get offended, but I think it's better if the community have a conversation about this (than suppress it). I just really want to understand the POV directly from those who identify as incels or those who know people who do. I think it helps to have a civilized conversation to understand other people's mindset.

Interesting title for a video game.

You sure do like creating inaprotate threads, don’t you?

Please try not to.