Random: Jealous Husband Sells Wife's Harvest Moon Collection To Stop Her "Marrying Virtual Men"

This is what we call a "red flag."

My wife is currently dating 5 guys in Rune Factory 4. Im going to send her a link to this article.

@Pak-Man I'd say that's already a tactical strike, way past a simple flag.

My partner loves Mass Effect, and has a statue of Garrus on her desk. I always knew he was up to something! He's pointing his sniper rifle* at her chair and everything. To eBay with him.

Oh, Kappa has absolutely got that drip!!
Kappa? More like Keepa!

also, I gotta say? I'm laughing polyamorously at that person's reddit posts.

I don't tell my GF about my video game crushes, I'll only get told she don't look like them or acts like them.

Would you rather:
1. Be married to a spouse that sometimes plays a life sim with friendships and marriage mechanics.
2. Be divorced.

Is it possible the whole thing's a joke? I know there are some weird people out there, but this feels a bit off, lol.

Wow, this man sounds incredibly controlling and insecure. She is not allowed to have male friends or even fictional male friends or boyfriends. This is more of a problem with him than with her!! Marry someone you trust instead of trying to control them! It's insane how normalized this is in parts of the world.

@RR529 Life can be stranger than fiction.

On a tangent, my partner apparently can't decide which guy to date on Stardew Valley. I find her apprehension more nerve-wracking than actually making a decision lol - hurry up and make up your mind!

@RR529 yep that's very likely too

He's probably jealous that he's not as hot as Kappa, my beloved.

@RR529 I have to agree, it's not a "joke" in the traditional sense we're all used to.

It's a "joke" in the sense the OP wanted attention and crafted a story they knew would be met with outrage from numerous posters. This is a typical format to elicit rage. Especially in a sub like r/AITA, these kinds of posts are commonly called out in other "quit your bull****" kind of subs.

Probably fake.

If not, he's an emotionally unstable control freak, and she was stupid to commit to someone like that. A boyfriend being "uncomfortable" with you getting hitched to fictional characters in a video game is a pretty big red flag on its own.

@RR529 There are a lot of troll posts on subreddits like this, so it's very possible.

AITA be like:
I killed my baby brother's puppy because I hate dogs. I'm right in this situation, aren't I?

Yeahhh, that’s one hell of a red flag. Equating playing a game to having a body pillow is a bit stupid as well, one is a physical item that well, goes in your bed.

A red flag, but now I feel the urge to play some HM

I think if anything, the odds of her having an affair or divorce would INCREASE with this course of action of his, so I don't think he's doing himself any favours by being this controlling. It's not even like these fictional men are realistic. They're super-deformed, and you know, NOT REAL.

I think this dude might have some serious commitment issues if he's worried that the boys of Harvest Moon is gonna steal his girl lmfao

Um, 🚩, He has got to be one hell of a control freak to sell her whole harvest moon collection? Over marrying fake men? I would date em too, I mean look at the doctor, he's hot! 🥵

He sounds like a keeper.

Notice that my comment is dripping in sarcasm.

I'm sure that most of the stuff on r/AITA is fiction

However if it is real then his feelings are justified but his actions aren't. Like anything in marriage this will require some compromise from both parties.

Imagine my partner being jealous because I marry other men or women in such games.

Jokes aside we are both gamers, but I am the anime addict here and my partner even tends to nudge me if something I would love to have gaming or anime wise is on sale.

Same goes the other way around.

But oh well some people ... think their partners are their property, just like my phone which is a thing and not a living being...

Had a good laugh here, because I know a lot of people like this guy, and actually most of them are female.

Q : What are your thoughts on virtual cheating?

Me : I have already married with 3 different husband in Harvest Moon Magical Melody Gamecube. I played as Girl character to get married with Blue, Kurt and Basil since I cannot play as Boy and getting married with the bachelors. But I will do gay marriage for Story of Seasons Friends of Mineral Town.

I have a shelf full of amiibo figures, does that mean I have feelings for all of those characters?

yeeesh forget red flags, this is just sad. probably fake but if it's real I'd be pissed as hell if an SO sold something I hold dear/collect. on a side note, @RubyCarbuncle definitely bullying and controlling. if this dudes for real he needs some serious help, that's messed up

@farrgazer I’ve seen similar controlling AITA posts (including a guy thinking his wife romancing a character in My Time at Portia is an affair).

I’ve even seen one with some woman getting upset over her fiancé from watching Marvel films because Black Widow was borderline softcore porn or something.

Even if a lot of these AITA posts are hyperbolic fakes, there’s enough people IRL who don’t see these controlling/abusive behaviors for what they are. If nothing else, the comment sections might open an eye or two before the OP deletes everything.

I get being jealous, but never have I been jealous of fictional characters. I wanna laugh at this, if it weren't a massive red flag of a control freak and possibly worse behaviors.

@HammerGalladeBro My fiancée married an NPC in Elden Ring, and writes a lot of romantic Fire Emblem fanfics. I’ve romanced countless characters in farming sims. Guess our marriage is doomed over pixels. 😆

The husband overstepped his boundaries by selling her collection without her consent; if you're that displeased with your spouse, just get divorced. A virtual partner in a video game is harmless in and of itself, but some people do take it way too far. There's people who officially marry their digital waifus in real life lol, so if her attachment is anything like that, then I could sort of understand the jealousy. I think the anime body pillow thing is a valid comparison--even if it's fantasy, you and your partner should have mutual respect if one of you isn't comfortable with the other getting off to something. It's a double standard and something that should be discussed well in advance of marriage to make sure you won't have any complications down the road.

I, for example, want a committed relationship that doesn't involve p**n. Five seconds on Twitter or DeviantArt or really anywhere online will show you how people take the most benign, innocent things and sexualise them. Good old Rule 34. So, I don't think there's enough information here for me to just completely say the man's feelings were invalid. But this is something you should talk out with her; if her eroticizing a fantasy character makes you feel inadequate like you can't meet your wife's needs, or if you feel like it's a gateway that might lead to infidelity in the future, communicate that to her. But power plays to assert your authority isn't gonna make her respect you more; it's only gonna wedge the two of you further apart.

Now, if this whole thing is purely platonic and he just doesn't like the fact that her game happens to include simulated romances, then I really have no defense for him. I think there's a big difference between "Honey, look--my avatar just got married! Isn't that cute? This game is so addictive and fun." versus "Mmmh, why can't you be built like the men in this game? I want him soooo bad. I'm gonna tell all my friends I'm in a platonic relationship and want to leave my DS in bed every night so they can sleep with us." (I genuinely wouldn't be surprised if someone out there does this.)

So, I'm not willing to jump to conclusions just yet. People always form such strong opinions before knowing all the details. Context is important. He shouldn't have done what he did, but both parties may be guilty of red flags.

Edit: Alright, so I guess I should take my own advice. Did some googling to see if there were just the worst examples of husband's in Harvest Moon, and they all seem to be over-the-top cartoon caricatures that I can't possibly imagine someone being genuinely attracted to. Nothing surprises me anymore, though I'm more inclined to think the husband was really grasping at straws.

I still think it opens the door for an important conversation though. Saw a prank video a while back of a guy pretending to watch p**n when his wife walks in and gets furious at him. The comments thought the lady acted awful, but like...even if it's "look but don't touch," you should still consider your partner's feelings about that sort of stuff. Respect goes two ways.

@Ralizah sometimes that doesn't come out till later

Cliff! My original childhood self was spot on!

@Tempestryke Sure. That's not the impression I got from the post, though.

Of course, that's only from his warped perspective. Maybe he made some sort of comment about her spending time with virtual husbands and she brushed it off as a joke, like, I imagine, most people would.

Either way, if this is real, she needs to leave the marriage sooner than later before he escalates his controlling behavior. I've seen friends marry people like this, and it never ends well.

I'm in trouble then. I've just spent the last couple of hours doing the "Live Chat" mini game in Yakuza 6 😬

@Ralizah I agree with you 100%

There is no way that this is not fake. Enjoy this entertainment in these trying times, people!

@RR529 I do think a lot of the AITA posts are fake, you can be so anonymous on Reddit

Also, if his GF is truly still spending all of her time marrying dudes on the Gamecube and GBA in 2022 then I think an intervention probably is in order.

Of course he is the AH. The article did raise a smile though as I recall the time Haley gave birth to our child in Stardew Valley and I immediately showered her with gifts. My wife watching me play remarked I wasn't quite so enthusiastic at the birth of my non-digital children, which certainly made me reflect

It's hard to tell which ones of these are fake and which aren't. Some people really do weird/messed up stuff, and a lot of them spend much time on Reddit. But there is also obvious karma farmers, so you never know.

As long as he's not beating her. Then this is something the two of them will have to work out on their own. It was wrong of him to post that online and trying to get an internet following to help shame her into submission. Clearly the two need some kind of councelling as well.

To some small degree I can understand where he's coming from, but these are virtual characters with no human presence behind them. Even if this was some kind of wishful fillment on her part, he needs to ask himself why he's so insecure about it to the point that he has taken extreme measures instead of trying to understand her hobby. If he thinks it isn't harmless then maybe its soemthing he's doing that is driving her to wishfull fillment in such an extreme way. Up to him to figure it out with her. Again redit, twitter, facebook, not the place for this. Internet can just shut the hell in any case and mind its own damned business.

This is sad all ways round to be honest.

You often find "the problems" are deeper and more complex than this simple action.

I’m missing a “Any one of them is better than that insecure tosser”-option, TBH.

It’s so utterly pathetic (And kind of creepy) that i’d seriously rethink the relationship altogether, what will be the next thing he’ll feel threatened by? (And what lengths will he go to to remove that?)

@NotSoCryptic Abuse is abuse, whether it's physical or not. This is textbook controlling abuse. It's a huge red flag and this poor woman needs to run.

Oh nice, Reddit re-posts. A sure sign of quality.

🤦‍♂️ Ughhhh... How do A-holes like this guy acquire the capability to get married, but yet here I am at 35 and still single? 🤦‍♂️

@Bret Sure let me jump on my white horse and ride out there to help her. as I said as long as he's not beating her, she can pack her bags and go. Stay with her parents. Be a responsible adult and get herself to safety. Her friends and family can help and intervene.

As far as "abuse is abuse" , you're saying a whole lot of nothing here. thing is thing, is a lazy mans saying "I don't like thing and I'm going to blanket statement all things". War is War, but my reaction to nuclear war is going to be drastically different from that of cyberattacks engaged in a cold war setting and anything inbetween. simply saying things like "abuse is abuse" is simply engaging in rampant escallation or the meme "that escallated fast". Honest that being your basis, is enough for me to ask what help you're getting for your problem.

I have no idea what is going on, on the other end. It does not need my involvement. It's a situation that needs to be handled by local members of that community. The worst part about this is, this story sounds awfully familiar to something I heard a decade or so ago. For all I know its been reposted and Nintendo Life is being taken for a ride.

@EVIL-C They probably get out of the house and actually walked up to and talked to a girl. Be confident and get out there. That's probably the only difference.

Just wow. I really hope this is fake.....

Edit: The post got removed from reddit, because of rule 8 on that subreddit. "This post violates Rule 8: Posts should be truthful and reflect recent conflicts you've had that need arbitration. That means no shitposts, parodies, or satires."

So yeah probably fake?

..Aaaaand today's Internet WTF moment goes to....

That is some next level jealousy, yikes.

Bad husband right there, you should support your wife's choices

I think the easiest way to decipher the legitimacy of a story is to ask this simple question: does it originate from a Reddit community known for its... let's say leniency with regards to the legitimacy of its submissions?

If there was ever a "Bruh" moment....

I would pick Doctor a thousand times over this troglodyte.

Not only is he my favorite bachelor ever, but he wouldn't be jealous of a pg rated farming sim.

He wants to be more worried about those Assassin's Creed games she plays. Maybe he'll turn up on her hit list.

Well as a longtime gamer of harvest moon and other games including Thousand Arms, Sprung, and other weird dating ones from way back when, I’d say this story is 100% grounds for divorce. If a guy is that disrespectful of his wife’s possessions that he would sell them while she’s at work while he’s in a psycho jealous rage over her playing video games, regardless of the content, then she should run as far and fast away from him as possible. People like that only get worse. He could physically harm her for no reason at some point.
That being said, and going back to me personally playing those games, my husband is protective of me but doesn’t give a hoot what I play, he knows it’s just games, and furthermore in a bit of irony, I married a guy in harvest moon once that had the same name as my husband and looked identical to him, years before I married him. I’ve known him forever and had a secret crush on him, but it was sweet like it was meant to be when I married one like him in a game before he was actually even dating me. Life may or may not imitate art but as anyone who’s played these games knows.. there are no realistic feels of love in them regardless. It’s all pixels and imagination. Games are meant to be fun and entertaining. No different than watching a romantic movie or hearing a love song. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@NotSoCryptic I've taken note how you automatically blamed me, plus assumed I never actually tried to "get out there". I guess traveling 13K Km for one person in particular doesn't count as "getting out there". Noted. 🙄🙄🙄

Also, covid for 2 years. Don't assume you know people, because you don't know 💩.

DUDE BRUH WTF?!?
How can you be THAT insecure/Jealous of VIRTUAL CHARACTERS that you decided to SELL YOUR WIFES THINGS and THEN tell her to uninstall Stardew Valley?
If this woman is going to stay with this man (very likely not) then he’s gonna force her to stay with him. Please divorce this man and stay AS FAR AWAY from him as possible. (And to be on the safe side call a therapist or something just to be safe)

@Astral-Grain
What's (not) funny is that for some people it would actually be a real tough choice for them. Not most people, but a few.

Unfortunate you can never know everything about a person. This is something I’d run from in a heartbeat. You’re that jealous or that overtly traditional you’d steal my stuff because it has fictitious virtual dating? This is one of the more obvious red flags I’ve seen. Good luck having him allow you to have male co workers. What a lunatic.

I'd leave this guy at once because staying with him sounds like an excellent way to get murdered for maintaining eye contact with a cashier for too long.

Wow, I really hope this is just one of the many, many fake stories that get posted on r/AITA. If it isn't, she needs to call a friend to pick her up ASAP, leave now and watch her back. This is not normal behavior. If this is real, it won't stop with video games.

This story is something else. Worse reaction than girls who get insecure over what fake virtual girls in video games look like.

Yeah, gunna sign off with the rest saying that r/AITA is fake.

But let's be real, a lot of people, here and elsewhere, would want it to be real to justify the opinions many have already taken so strongly about just the IDEA of the scenario being true. Can't blame them, honestly, we do have people marrying 3DS girlfriends.

@Arckadius

You realize this article would enrage any woman right? Myself included & I'm not even married which if there really are men out there like this it makes me all the more glad I'm still single in my 30's. Even more leaning towards staying single now~ Someone touches my stuff & decides to randomly sell it & not say a word would live to regret it. My mom used to pull this crap on me as a kid in the 90's purposely wait until I left for school & take everything in my room & donate to st. Vincent de pauls. A few times she waited until I got home & had me ride in the car with her while she drove to st. Vincent de Paul's & drop my stuff off right in front of me to flat be mean & vendictive. Meanwhile me hysterically in tears crying every time. She did to purposely make me upset which she seemed to get enjoyment out of... Fast forward it's taken me years to retrack down certain items she either threw away, gave away to relatives or her co workers, etc. I forgave her but want absolutely nothing to do with her for a number of reasons not even just this... In short if a person sells another person's possession & there really attached to it like me they will retrack it back down in my case several times over certain items... 🤦‍♀️ Alot frustration, hurt, & tears when alot of it could have been avoided... 🤦‍♀️

Happy Gaming! (^~^)

Jeez glad I am not this insecure.

@Balladeer Garrus was hands-down the coolest Mass Effect character. Stone cold badass.

I would choose Gourmet over that twerp, and that guy only shows up twice a year after marriage!

Kate (and apparently many of the other commenters!) obviously don't know about the 5th, and perhaps most popular, category: people making up hilarious and outlandish scenarios to get a reaction out of people on the internet.

When you take out that context, this whole article boils down to "omg, men be toxic and insecure, right!?"

I'm sure if the roles are reversed, the dude will get mocked too instead. Can't win so why bother.

Looool I start Rune Factory 5 tomorrow... guess who got married today xD

If the woman was obsessing over virtual husbands like some Japanese kids do with their anime girlfriends, then he shouldn't be jealous — he should just leave her because that's creepy.

If it's just her playing the game like any normal sane person would, then she needs to leave him, because he's creepy.

There. Solved it.

It's just part of the game. I hope they have a real divorce because the jealously is raising eyebrows.

@Benji80 Actually I think it would depend. I've had an ex who put up red flags. Ex was jealous of all my friends of the same gender. I'm not joking. Not virtual but getting that riled up raises eyebrows.

Well… that’s not a very endearing quality

Imagine feeling threatened by fictional characters

@Barbiegurl777

I assure you I would not have sent this to her if I thought she would be mad over it. She knows I don't care if she marries someone in a game. I sent her the article and we had a good laugh at the absolute absurdity of it. But I feel your pain, my mom also got rid of a lot of my stuff in the 90's without a word and it was always infuriating. Im sorry you had to go through that.

The guy sounds like a reddit troll since it seems he knows his gaming but I can see this happening in real life though. It could happen either way, an overly insecure male or female partner gets jealous over a game or fictional material so I don't see gender bias being an issue here. I mean when I was in college I had a gf who gets jealous when I crush on an anime character or celebrity.

Bold of him to assume it won't lead her to divorcing him. Bold move all together.

Sounds like somebody has a small penis.

But how else I am meant to get the best characters in Fire Emblem Awakening? By not shipping the characters? 🤔

Yes, she should sell them, and use the money to pay a divorce attorney.

I know it is fake btw.

My wife did sometimes live vicariously through Sims.
You don't touch other people's savedata or stuff. But I also rather she didn't play sim games.

Why are some people so insecure? If your wife wants to cheat there's two possibilities.
1. It has nothing to do with you and it's just how she is and always will be.
2. It has everything to do with you because of how you treat her.
So control the one you can (yourself) and be happy and don't push your wife even further away. If she cheats and it's a deal breaker (because it's not one for everyone - we see it every day), then get a divorce and move on. People just have to be such children about this stuff, I swear.

@NotSoCryptic Bud, you said "as long as he's not beating her", full stop. That delegitimizes other forms of abuse, and I can't stand for that. That's why I said what I did, not some weird ass escalation or whatever you think I'm doing. I just personally have a pet peeve about people thinking physical abuse is the only "real" abuse. Whether this specific situation is real or not doesn't matter for what I'm trying to say here.

OP's posting cringe. Glad he deleted the account, it wasn't even funny ragebait.

If that was me who this happens to, I'd divorce the person. But that's just what I would do, I'm not saying that's what people should do.

Lol, I love this new world. This reminds me of how my fiancee (playfully) gives me grief about playing Fitness Boxing with Laura as my trainer. Things like this shouldn't get past the humor side of things... But that's 2022 for you.

@RR529 doubtful. I've met men and women that firmly stand by the idea that you can't even have FRIENDS of the opposite sex. You also aren't allowed to continue to be around your family members of the opposite sex if you want to date/marry them. I knew one guy who got pissed off his GF/date had a poster/picture of a football player on her wall (in uniform) and threatened to break up if they didn't take it down and throw it away. So this is NOT farfetched. The person probably deleted their account because they probably got harassed over this post and their entire world view was being attacked in their eyes. This is completely believable.

Probably fake. But entertaining.

Makes me think...my wife likes slice of life style games like the Sims and Animal Crossing...she might like Stardew Valley too.

Unrelated but funny story: while I was playing Magical Melody a long time ago, one of the romantic events rolled around and I promised the Doctor I'd go with him. But then I was an idiot and exhausted myself that day, unintentionally skipping the event and waking up with the Doctor by my bedside telling me I need to take better care of myself. Though in my head cannon, it was more along the lines of "You could've just said no..." I felt so bad I restarted the game so as to not be an idiot and overwork myself

@RR529 He deleted it though...

@Arckadius

I know what your saying. Anyone in the article nuts enough to get this crazy over something virtual is dumb. I look at my video games as pure fiction. The guy in the article pardon my french is a absolute moron to get upset over something so dumb let alone people who aren't even real written into video games as literally part of the storyline for each game. He clearly does not understand reality from fiction at all. It blow's my mind sometimes people are truly this dumb these days sometimes~ 🤷‍♀️✌️

Happy Gaming! (^~^)

Oh, this is just rich!

Never played an HM game but Gustafa's design just hits different. Would definitely marry him instead of the Reddit dude

If that was the other way round and it was anime characters that guy would be branded a weeb and many more names....