As you may have seen across the web, May is mental health awareness month. While a lot of the stigma around the topic has eased, the issues and challenges remain across all parts of society. Throughout this month there are efforts to encourage support, understanding and knowledge around the topic.
There are various ways to help improve and maintain mental health, from basics such as regular exercise and a healthy diet to more complex treatment and support. Yet on a smaller scale other pleasures can help us deal with some tough times that life throws at us, whether it’s a favourite book, movie or, of course, a game. Part of the reason we play games is the joy they bring, offering escapism, emotional connection or just bright and colourful fun.
In this article a number of our team talk about the games that are old favourites, the sort of title we turn to when we need a boost through tough times.
Gavin Lane, editor
While various games have helped me get through trying times at one point or another, I'm going to go with the one-two punch of Okami on Wii and Fable 2 on 360.
It was the late 2000s and I was living alone in London, and feeling low for one reason or another (well, one reason specifically which tied into a bunch of others, but I won't bore you with the particulars — it's a tale as old as time!) and I found myself wanting to inject some colour into a very grey time in my life.
Whether this pair of brilliant games genuinely helped me or not, I'm uncertain — real change only came after moving away and reassessing things over many years to get some proper perspective and genuinely start feeling better — but making my way through both these games in quick succession felt like a way to stop and catch my breath at the time. Each one offered gentle humour and incredibly beautiful worlds to slip into and, thinking back, my mind is filled with rich, warm memories from a time I have very few of those.
Kate Gray, staff writer
The year was 2020, etc etc etc. It was a tough time, like the title says — made even tougher by being in a long-distance relationship, unable to travel to see each other. So we decided to take our relationship to the obvious next step: Minecraft!
I have a tendency to hyperfocus on games when I'm going through a rough period of mental health, seeking comfort in the familiar. As a result, our Minecraft sessions were frequent and long. Pretty much every night, we would both jump onto our shared server and either go on long adventures to the bottom of the ocean or the Nether, or we would focus on building up our little mountain house, all while on a Discord call together.
Soon, the house was no longer little — instead, it was a sprawling farm filled with animals that I'd painstakingly led back home, and indoors there was both an aquarium and a beequarium (at my insistence). But once we had all the modcons, we realised we ought to start afresh, using all of our gained knowledge to create something bigger, better, and more suited to our needs (like a gigantic storage system).
Several hundred miles of adventuring later, we found a little nook in-between two mountains, next to a Tundra village which had a huge cave system beneath it (sadly, the village would later become abandoned after we forgot to protect the villagers). We built an underground palace, complete with everything a person might need: A sorcery room, an underground railway, and a big tube-shaped room with a fish pond window at the top.
It was really nice to forget the troubles of the real world by delving into the virtual world of Minecraft, and it's a game I go back to frequently to self-soothe. It's not an easy game, but it's mechanically quite simple, and repetitive in a way that's quite calming. Plus, it's quite easy to while away several hours without even realising it, which helped pass the lockdown much faster. And now me and my partner live together! In real life!!! Woo!!!!!!!
Whenever we want, we can go and visit that world that we created together, and remember when things were hard — and be thankful for the healing power of time. And Minecraft.
Alana Hughes, staff writer
Looking back, it’s strange to call this a “tough time” out of the many periods of unrest I’ve had, but when I first started university, I needed Xenoblade Chronicles. I suffer with imposter syndrome, and it was particularly bad at uni. I didn't think I was good enough to be there to the point I would struggle to talk to people and lock myself away. But Xenoblade’s stunningly beautiful world taught me otherwise.
The very act of going through every location, finding a new secret, defeating a Unique Monster, or sometimes something as small as helping a villager confess their love, made me feel like I could actually achieve something, and it helped me grow in confidence and put myself out there a bit more. I have a bit of a soft spot for Shulk, too – a kid who can see into the future and who ends up saving the world, among other things, but he accepts his responsibility and overcomes his fears and doubts with the help of his friends.
Xenoblade came to the rescue again in the early summer of 2021. I’d lost my grandmother earlier that year, and both of the family dogs the year before, and I fell into a pretty bad depression. I booted up Definitive Edition one evening and just threw myself into the world. Makna Forest and Eryth Sea ate up my worries, and I felt weightless for just a few hours. I did this for a few nights, and it helped me get through some sleepless anxiety-filled nights.
I’m a pretty firm believer that video games can help you out and teach you things about yourself. Celeste helped me understand my anxiety disorder, and Florence helped me acknowledge that life is full of both love and heartbreak. So I’m sure video games will continue to be a force of good in my life, and hopefully, eventually, I can be consistently kinder to myself.
Ollie Reynolds, staff writer
It’s funny how we view certain media depending on the context in which it’s been consumed. For example, I struggle to even imagine watching 2000’s comedy film ‘Bedazzled’ again without feeling somewhat nauseated. Why? Not because it’s God-awful, but because I was watching it in my little box room back in 2004 when I found out that my parents were separating.
When I think back on that year, much of it feels hazy, and I’m pretty sure I’ve intentionally extinguished much of it from my mind in the years since. I remember there were two very specific pieces of media that I gravitated towards, however. The first was Green Day’s American Idiot album: I listened to it constantly and learned nearly every song from it on my cheap, knock-off guitar.
The second was Resident Evil 4 (yes, it came out in 2005, but it’s close enough to count), which I just became completely obsessed with. I completed the game several times within the first year of its release and rinsed the additional ‘Mercenaries’ mini-game - I couldn’t stop. I started speedrunning it before I’d even realised that speedrunning was a ‘thing’ that people did; I just did it for the sheer love of it.
Needless to say, running around and blasting the heads off the infected Ganados was cathartic for me at a time where I felt particularly hurt and angry. I was surrounded by family and friends that helped me along the way, of course, but Resident Evil 4 was my escape, my comfort blanket. There are plenty of people that joke about the number of times it’s been re-released over the years, but for me, the more the better. Resident Evil REmake is my favourite game of all time, but Resident Evil 4 comes in a close second for good reason.
Thomas Whitehead, deputy editor
In my case I'll focus on the present day, and times when I'm perhaps over-tired (sometimes I'm a terrible sleeper), or glum about something or other. Sometimes I have little micro-periods of being down, a few days where absolutely everything is a big effort but the only choice is to push on.
I often find myself going back to shorter games that give me a boost of either favoured gaming or nostalgia. A go-to over the last couple of years on Switch has been Sayonara Wild Hearts, a wonderful ‘pop album’ experience; after you’ve cleared the stages you unlock Album mode, where you can play through levels non-stop. That’s really the intended way, and I like to put on headphones, sit in my favourite chair and just immerse myself in a playthrough. Not only are the music and visuals fantastic, but the story is touching too – it’s a memorable journey.
My other choice necessitates charging and firing up my 3DS – Sonic the Hedgehog 2 (I know it's on Switch too, but the 3D version is fantastic). This is more about nostalgia, as it was my favourite game as a kid and is still in my top 5. Again, it’s something I can play through within a couple of hours, finding a quiet spot and some headphones. It is sublime Sonic, full of classic levels; if I ever want a more immediate option I can fire up Sonic Mania on Switch.
Those are some games that we turn to when we need a lift, as you can see they vary in genre and style. That's one of the great things about games, of course - let us know in the comments what games you most appreciate in tough times.
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The game that got me through a really rough patch was Tokyo Mirage Session #FE on my Wii U. Kept putting a smile on my face.
I did not have hard times but I have games that are my go-to happy place
1. Castlevania Symphony of the Night
2. World of Warcraft (just for a few quests)
3. Minecraft
I think it goes without saying ACNH helped me alot during 2020. I was a great escape from everything since the family was stuck at home. Outside of that, whatever I'm playing at the current moment. Video games have been a great way to forget about my troubles. Even if it's only in small doses, any little bit helps.
Nice idea for a feature. I've struggled with depression since my mid teens and have been a gamer through that time so there have been lots of times where games have helped me. Stay safe! X
Seems wrong to leave out Animal Crossing: New Horizons. This seemed to be the game that got many people through the earliest part of covid lockdowns. Myself included.
I had a period of depression and anxiety during the beginning of the Wii era. I had to take a sabbatical from everything work, gaming etc. However, during my recovery (a long road in itself) the Wii helped me a lot. Wii Sports, Big Brain Academy, Wii Party, Wii Fit etc. Actually relaxing but just gently stimualting enough. To get me slowly back. Mario Galaxy 1 as well. The audio-visual upbeat joy. Didn't care if I failed multiple times as it was a joy to replay and re-try. I miss the Wii. A few DS games, particularly the puzzle ones, really helped me. When I was on the mend Metroid Prime 3 seemed to help too for some reason. The methodical searching & remembering where everything was and everything lead. As well as the intersting story and control scheme.
In terms of saving me from psychological collapse, Animal Crossing New Horizons in 2020 is an obvious winner. There have been specific games before that I've played a lot when I was in a bad state (such as MMOs) but tbh those generally hindered as much as helped my emotional state. In terms of making me healthier, it's usually just playing a variety of games more casually to relax, not any specific game.
However, non-psychologically, some Wii games including Wii fit actually helped me with my physical therapy after a major accident where I (amongst other things) lost a lot of arm movement.
Literally had split from my now ex wife days before first UK lockdown. Animal Crossing: New Horizon was an absolute godsend. It’s a simplistic game but the escapism is huge. I don’t really play it anymore as I’ve moved passed that stage in my life but I’m still grateful for the purpose it served.
Monster Hunter 3 Ultimate on Wii U when I first got out of the military medically, eaten up with depression and some forms of PTSD. Landed in a small town with no friends, and I was withdrawn and a recluse. I didn’t work or drive for a time. I withdrew from Facebook, being hurt from relationships and friends from the military who turned out to not actually be my friends. I bought a Wii U at launch because it was literally the only thing I had to be excited about at the time. I was very suicidal at this time. Keeping a noose in my closet and staying in bed most days having dreams about suicide. I would walk to a coffee house to escape it all. I met a guy, who was into gaming and metal briefly, and he suggested MH to me. He taught me how to play the game and understand it, since it had a steep learning curve. I’m not sure whatever happened to him. We only hung out a few times. But at night alone, MH3U was my first online video game where I chatted vocally and I ended up making online friends, it was also my first Monster Hunter. I got it on 3DS as well, and met a group of nerds at a coffee place. I would go and drink coffee there to be alone and play on my 3DS. I’d look over at them with their laptops up and the 3DS’s out. Then one of the guys approached me and saw I had Monster Hunter. I joined their table. I’ve been friends with all of them for years now. Nintendo and MH kind of was therapy to me. Sometimes a little too much. But video games helped me disconnect at somethings and become reconnected to others. Now I work full-time at my town’s newspaper, I’m married, and I do so much freelance art and met so many new people. I barely have time to play games. I may actually have to quit a job I really like to go to college. I thank God for helping me come across that one person one night that suggested Monster Hunter to me. Wherever that one friend is, I hope he’s well. I made many more thanks to him.
Elder scrolls oblivion.
It was my sophomore year of college, and my first long term relationship (1 1/2 years) collapsed. Oblivion came out, and I escaped into it, extremely. I needed the solo experience that it offered, with only the pressures of exploration driving me forward.
It was a cleansing reality, and it really helped me cope with a break up intensity I'd never really dealt with before.
Was suicidal in 9th grade and persona 3 portable is probably the only reason I'm still here. I think that might sound dramatic but it's just how it was for me then. Part of it is the acceptance of death and how characters overcome it despite the suicide motifs in the game, it was very clearly meant to inspire people to overcome death. Specifically akihikos arc was very personal to me
I find Portal/Portal 2 to be pretty soothing. And Friday Night Funkin’ can be pretty relaxing for me, except for when the songs make my arms sore for days (looking at you, AppleCore.)
The Legend of Zelda Breath of The Wild on My Nintendo Switch got me through my my divorce (ex wife cheated on me). I'm thankful everyday for my Nintendo Switch; in fact, I've upgraded to the Nintendo Switch OLED when I got Married to my Second Wife (I call her my True First and will be my last).
Nintendo Switch will always be my Favorite Console/Handheld! Breath of the Wild will definitely be my Top 10 Most Favorite Game of All Time!
Doom eternal. Didn't play it until like 6 months after it came out, but turned out killing demons helped me fight my own demons that i was fighting at the time
Steamworld Dig 2. Worked as a care worker and was on a 12 hour night shift with a dying patient. Me and the other member of staff would rotate every 2 hours to sit with him. When it was my turn for a break would play that as just bought it. Kept me sane. Passed away last hour of my shift while I was sat holding his hand.
@Kiwi_Unlimited it is truly such a special game though
Im going through a pretty rough time right now and Animal Crossing New Horizons is helping quite a bit. When the future feels uncertain it's become a reliable safe place where I can find positivity and insightful advice. Thanks for sharing this article ❤
The games that got me through the last roughest path of life:
1. DuckTales Remastered
2. Star Fox Zero
3. MGS Vs The Phantom Pain (this one still sucks, even tho it helped me ease my pain)
Other than the obvious ACNH, another game that really helped me through COVID was Super Mario Maker 2. Me and my best friend got it at the same time (May, actually) and throughout 2020 played it for hundreds of hours together. When I couldn’t see anyone in real life, I used SMM2 to play with my friends.
I spent hours upon hours with Pokemon Sword/Shield during the pandemic. I don’t think they’re anywhere close to being the best entries in the series but something about the simplicity of them allowed me to just relax and grind for long sessions. To blow off steam these days I usually fire up good ol’ Diablo 3 or Torchlight 2 on Switch.
I had four hernias repaired at once about 10-ish years ago. In the two week recovery, I played Dark Souls PTDE on my PC to get through it. In retrospect, this sounds like a "back in my day!" story LOL
Have fun everyone
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Sonic All Stars Racing Transformed, Animal Crossing
Kingdom Hearts 2 got me through a really bad time in the mid 2000s released at the perfect time after so many family members and friends either dying or arguing thus leaving
Animal Crossing and Stardew Valley for relaxing, no pressure enjoyment, The Last Of Us 2 to remind me things could be worse
I've had a fair few bouts with.... let's just say bad feelings. However, if we're talking about the lowest point of mine so far, there's two games that I remember getting me through some very bad times: Lego Marvel Super Heroes and Pokemon Sun Moon. Both of these were games I got around about the time people very close to me passed away and were my escape during those times of sorrow. I was able to lose myself in their worlds, gameplay, stories and so much more. It's a factor in why I hold those two in such high regards: without them, things would've been so much worse but thanks to them, I was able to push on with my life.
Zelda BotW and the Witcher 3 were genuinely therapeutic for me on Switch. I had to change jobs and worked a county away from my family for a couple years and was a rough patch overall. BotW in particular, even the 3 minute reveal trailer with that opening piano...I watched that trailer probably 100 times before it launched. Come home from work after a rough day and just enjoy that little slice of beauty.
Dark Souls Remastered
I think I'm gonna cry having read the article and the comment section. The game that got me through my toughest bits in high school was Breath of the Wild. There's a pretty good reason why I cherish that game above all.
For me it was Astral Chain.
There’s nothing about that particular game that I found helpful, other than the fact that it’s pretty good, but it was the first game I bought when I stopped drinking.
It was a revelation because I’d always loved games, but without the fog of drunkenness or hangover, I was now immersed in a way I never had been before.
Still haven’t quite completed it though, but slowly working on it. Not my favourite game, hence not having yet completed it, but it’ll always be extremely important to me.
Hard to say if a game has helped me when I’m feeling really down (usually don’t have the energy to play a game when I’m like that), but I think perhaps the closest story I got was back in my late teens I ended up playing the persona games on vita (3 portable and 4 golden) on a whim (the vita didn’t have much else to play) and they really got me thinking with its social links and everything the protagonist was doing in their down time whether or not I could be doing better with my life and whether or not I wasted it so far (absolutely did).
I’m still not nearly where I should be ten years later (so far from it….) but I think that experience with that game did help, made me want to hang out with my friends more and actually do stuff with them. At the very least I regret my late teen years just a little less thanks to those games.
I had a pretty hard time growing up, saw and went through some things children never should, some pretty shocking things when I think back now. I loved video games and Michael Jackson, intensely, and I imagine it was because they offered me an escape, and still do. I can’t pinpoint anything in particular to do with those particular traumas, but I remember getting lost in Link to the Past on SNES when my Granda died, a more common but still painful thing most will go through. On the flip side, my Dad died and it was extremely traumatic for me, as I had just left his home for ten minutes, and returned to find him unresponsive, and despite trying to revive him it was in vain. I was playing Luigi’s Mansion 2 at the time, and LOVING it, but I have never had the heart to go back to it since then. I bought it digitally again some years later, but still just couldn’t play it.
@Losermagnet I hope you are feeling a lot better soon
I would say mine is probably Persona 4 on Vita. I wasn’t in as bad of a spot as most of the other commenters, but I had just moved from the place I’d lived my entire life and I had no friends. I was extremely angry all the time (also probably because I was 13 and it was the beginning of Covid). Persona 4 gave me characters written so well, it felt like they were real people. I couldn’t put the game down, I loved every single character and social link. All the while, the calendar system showed me just how long I had until the end. I rarely cry at media, but I didn’t stop crying for a good 30 minutes after finishing it. Then I realized I didn’t get the true ending, so I reloaded my save and finished the boss. Of course, I cried again lol.
@Ghostchip
It really is.
The only game I associate with a bad time in my life is Breath of the Wild. I was on the verge of dropping out of college at the time it came out and had gotten pretty sick right at the beginning of the semester, which more or less killed my last chance of turning things around. I didn't actually buy it or a Switch at launch because the distraction was the last thing I needed, though I still ended up failing anyway. Shortly after the semester ended, I got both as a birthday gift from my parents, which I felt like I absolutely didn't deserve. But I needed something to take my mind off things, so I started playing and didn't really stop until there was nothing left worth doing. I didn't enjoy it at all. I'd absolutely loved Skyward Sword, and Breath of the Wild had been my most anticipated game since it was announced. I'd avoided spoilers like the plague, but I'd constantly used the hours-long videos from the E3 livestream as background noise, thinking how amazing it was that the Great Plateau was only 1% of the map and there must be so much more that I hadn't seen. Instead, I found out that the game is almost exactly the same from beginning to end, and I'd already burned myself out on it by rewatching the official footage. You got all the meaningful upgrades right at the beginning, and could see every category of enemy, environment, and weapon within the first few hours. The only other interesting abilities you got were the champion powers, and the game punished you for playing around with them by giving them ridiculously long cooldowns. The shrines, divine beasts, and bosses all looked the same and reused the same mechanics. The entire story felt like an epilogue, the voice acting was awful, and all the characters felt completely flat and generic, all a massive step down from Skyward Sword. The rich, epic soundtracks from the previous games were also replaced with wind and an occasional piano key. It threw out everything that made the Zelda games special to me and everyone else on the planet loved it. Still, it gave me a couple months to dissociate and something to be angry at other than myself, so I guess I can thank it for that much.
After my original Switch died in 2020 during lockdown I went back to my Xbox One and threw myself into Forza Horizon 1 for a few months. When you can't go far from your house everyday being able to just tear down the open roads of Colorado was incredibly cathartic.
So many touching stories!
One game which helped me a bit at the time was Zelda: Ocarina of Time. It somehow gave me energy to go on for some time when I was in elementary school.
I could use one now though, since last summer actually, but nothing seems to work. Just finished Gris - it's beautiful, moving, but not strong enough to break the wall I guess.
I'd have to say mh4u. Long story short,my relationship after 12 years had ended and I had to move out of Cali back to ND leaving my kids with their mother. Easily the hardest thing I've ever had to do... Mh4u was released shortly before I made the trip back up,and while I had (addictively) played the series before,mh4u just really clicked with me. The advancement the series made with verticality,the visuals all while being presented in 3D really pulled me into it that much more,more than tripling my play times in previous entries.
Best part about it was my cousin(whom I had moved in with at the time) was there to play with me,so we had many many MANY nights of hunting or just straight up exploring every nook and cranny the game had to offer.
For me it has to be Persona 4 Golden (specifically the Steam version I never had a Vita). I was at a point where I didn't really have any friends, mostly just acquaintances, but that game actually helped me to care more about people's problems and make real friends. (Even though Yosuke will still always be my best friend above all real people)
@NintendoEternity So weird! I had basically that exact experience at the same time! I'm now also re-married too
The last of us. Got me through tough times
RE4. Seriously one of my lowest points. But that game and ultimately MERCENARIES became something of a lifesaver.
The Legend of Zelda, Metroid, and Star Fox were my go-to games when I was struggling as a kid. It felt nice feeling like a hero saving the universe, even though I was a nerdy kid who was constantly bullied in school.
In many ways, those games saved my life. Had I not had them, I probably wouldn't be here typing this out right now. My depression would have gotten the better of me, and I wouldn't have had anything to look forward to, and I probably would have ended my life.
But that's the biggest reason why I want to eventually work for Nintendo. I want future kids who find themselves in the position I was in to find some modicum of happiness in life, so that they have something to look forward to in the future, and not prematurely end their own life.
I want to do for those children what current and former employees at Nintendo did for me, and I can't envision anywhere other than Nintendo to make that goal happen.
I'm trying to think of a game that I would go to when I was feeling down or something but I don't think I've used gaming to distract myself in that way before. If there was a game that got me through tough times...then it was usually just whatever I was playing at the moment. If I had to pick a game that might relax me though, I guess I'd probably say Civilization 6. That's more because it's like, my favorite game though.
Skyrim got me through my hardest year yet which is the beginning of this year! I am refreshed now. Great depth to sink your teeth into and disappear into another world for a few months.
@VR32X Keep well brother
It's funny how we sometimes forego our favorite games in favor of something new, which in turn gets to make its own special sort of impact. After skipping (or trying and losing interest in) every Assassin's Creed game after Revelation, I picked up Odyssey during a low point and proceded to obliterate it in a way I've played few games before or since. It really hit a sweet spot for me. Because normally with depression I lose interest in everything. I was thankful to have something to latch onto for once.
@Nontendo_4DS Really feeling this 😍
@AmplifyMJ Take care ❤
@AstroTheGamosian I hope you get your career with the big N.
For me:
1. ACNH
2. Para Para Paradise PS2
3. Ratchet & Clank games on PS3
4. Epic Chef PS4
I guess the list would be long if I wrote them all here, but the ones that helped me make it through hard times in the past two years were:
-Symphony of the Night, both Ori games and Hollow Knight - metroidvania marathon when the pandemic started in 2020
-Metroid Dread and Grindstone last January - an awful month for me
For me the game is the original Hyrule Warriors. There are a number of games that have helped at certain points in my life, but none as consistently as Hyrule Warriors did in 2014/2015. It is a perfect catharsis game, a game where you just go destroying unending amount of enemies just mindlessly enough that its comfort food, but not so mindlessly that its boring. And any day during that time where I was angry or depressed, I could just play that game for an hour and things will chill out for me.
@Losermagnet I hope you can get to a better place. I send you thoughts of strength!
Spiritfarer: last year I lived with my Dad for a month before he died. Though I played Spiritfarer months before that, parts of the game gave me strength. I was truly like Stella in the game, doing little quests for my Dad.
Games can be incredible mental and spiritual touchstones that guide us and encourage us.
Thank you a lot everyone for sharing your stories! A lot of touching reflections and honestly right now useful suggestions for games that could help me through what has been one of the hardest phases of my life thus far due to the health condition of a very close family member.
In early October of last year, after cutting ties with someone very close to me, Metroid Dread and the Switch OLED were about the only things that were able to give me some joy and distract me when I was actively suicidal. Persona 4 Golden and Persona 5 have helped me a lot at different points in the last 1 year/ 1 year and a half. The latter together with God of War (2018) started getting me excited about games again (and something in general) at the start of last year after a rough end to 2020.
Nothing hurts like heartbreak. Along time ago i lost that and a group of friends at the same time. Was horrible. Yet over time i felt truly better and had an almost invincible feeling because getting over that I feel like I could do anything. Chipping away at Mario 64 and being in that world holds many memories. Wish I could go back xxxxx don’t close your heart to love, it’s what we all want xxx
In some instances I’d say gaming has led people into hard times as well. Becoming too reliant on escaping reality takes over the lives of some. The best thing for me in a hard time has always been my interactions with friends and family. I’ve been sucked into a game before and spent so much the day doing it and then feeling like poo afterwards.
I will say that new horizons coming thru during the lockdown was a dream. It was perfect timing for a game like that.
Gaming has always been my happy place, where I can just have fun and be myself. 2020 was a rough year for lots of us, in my case all this pandemic made me lose my job, close friends, my relationship, you even say the life I worked so hard to have as my working visa couldn't get renewed and I had to start from zero. And still, that little game Animal Crossing was a blessing, it made me find peace, keep my spirits up and interact with somebody. I know, nothing beats human interactions, but in pandemic times, I had to celebrate twice my birthday with only my residents from Animal Crossing. I'll be honest, those little friends gave me company when I needed it the most.
Things are getting better and are looking to get better, but I'll never forget that on those isolated, scary and sad days, my friendly neighbors kept me company and gave me hope.
Gaming has always been my happy place. It still is. It's hard for me to be on the Internet for a long period of time. All the garbage, negativity, bad news. It just becomes a bit much. Firing up my Switch helps immensely. Whether it's more challenging game like Breath of the Wild or Witcher 3, something more light hearted like Mario or Kirby, or even something just to kill some time like one of the many arcade compilations to play some Pac-Man or Frogger, the Switch has helped me a lot through what has been a rough couple of years.
Phantasy Star Online (V1) on the Dreamcast was the game that gave me my fondest memories.
Not only was it my first MMORPG, but it allowed me to escape during my teen years when I felt like an outcast among my peers.
When I think ‘gaming’ this is the first that comes to mind.
Persona 5 Royal was a lifeline during the lockdown of 2020. I was able to simulate a normal lifestyle and "have a social life" of sorts with the Phantom Thieves. I extended the already long play time with extra hours spent grinding in Mementos and fusing Personas in the Velvet Room. When Persona 5 Strikers came out, I was vaccinated and carefully going back into my normal routine, but it felt like I was reunited with old friends and our adventures would continue.
Back in 2016, my first year of middle school wasn't going great, and I'd lost my grandmother that October. Animal Crossing New Leaf helped me a lot, since it gave me a sense of community--both in-game with my villagers and out-of-game with the few friends I'd made through Nintendo games. No matter what, people cared about me, even if they were just some virtual cats and sheep on my 3DS.
Like a lot of other people, ACNH helped me get through the start of the pandemic. It reminded me a lot of how NL helped me get through 2016, and I'd spend hours on it and talking with my now much bigger friend group since everyone was playing it. I'd also hacked my 3DS and played TWEWY, which was absolutely fantastic. The story really spoke to me, since while I've never been anti-social to the same level as Neku I certainly emphasized with him. Simply walking around a huge city and watching the crowds go by was like a little look into another world. Playing it at the same time as my brother was incredibly fun, and we both absolutely lost it when NEO:TWEWY was announced a while later.
Final Fantasy XIV's helped me get through some of my current troubles. I'm graduating soon and while I'm starting college in the fall, I feel aimless and kinda stuck as not quite a kid but not really an adult. Adventuring through Eorzea and talking with my free company full of amazing amazing friends, roleplaying in player-run cafes, and watching bards put on impromptu concerts is a fantastic way to get my mind off of things.
@Steifybobbins wow that's something else! Well Cheers to A better Marriage, and to Nintendo Switch!
During the Great Recession we lost our home and I was in the throes of a severe depression compounded by a long fight with alcoholism. The Nintendo DS and games like Hotel Dusk, 999, and TWEWY pulled me from the brink. While those years were some of the hardest of my life, I will always look back on those games with the greatest of fondness for shining their intermittent light in that darkness.
I don't know if it "got me through" a tough time as much as I wound up just letting Paper Mario: The Origami King absorb a lot of the depression and rage I was feeling in July 2020. It came out exactly a month after my cat passed away and my roommate who I couldn't stand was out of town, so I binged that game over the course of a week and made no effort not to scream at the TV every time I found myself completely out of patience with those goddamn discs.
The original Splatoon will forever be close to my heart for various reasons I won't go into. It arrived at just the right time and took my mind away from my troubles.
Breath of the Wild got me through the worst breakup of my life. When I broke up with my girlfriend, I shut myself in my room and couldn't get out of bed. I wasn't eating. I was a complete mess for the first few days. BOTW allowed me to escape and it genuinely saved me during that time of my life.
The Last of Us 1 & 2 got me through the beginning of the pandemic. It was becoming too easy to become numb during those first 6 months and The Last of Us helped me to hold on to empathy and to keep feeling when I wanted to go numb.
I grew up in a violent home with my father being unpredictable how his mood would be after work or in the mornings. The physical but especially the almost daily mental abuse were hard to deal with, but luckily videogames were my way to escape from reality.
I'm 33 now so back in 2002-2005 my GameCube was my personal safe and happy place with Star Fox Adventures early on, Zelda: The Wind Waker and Paper Mario 2 would also follow as games that felt like they protected me and made me feel seen or heard because I had to make myself invincible to not be noticed and get abused in real life and neither had the courage to stand against the abuse towards my mom. I felt validated for being the hero in those videogames and I could let go of the constant fear I felt during daily life, even just for a moment.
I lost my mum in 2012. The following year I played Ni No Kuni: Wrath of the White Witch on PS3. For those of you who haven't played it, the protagonist loses his mum in the opening act and goes on a fantasy themed adventure from studio Ghibli. It was exactly what I needed, when I needed it.
Any time I'm feeling under the weather, I start playing some Enter the Gungeon and it always takes my mind off things.
Reading the comments section making me tear up. Prayers and well wishes to all those going through tough times. As some may have already mentioned, its also wise to be mindful of your playtime as too much escapism can also affect you negatively. Been rough past couple of months for my mental health but these are some of the games that I've been playing:
1. Pokemon Legends Arceus - Perfect for a quick escape from reality.
2. Apex Legends - To take out anger and frustration. Too much can lead to anxiety and confusion so I try to control my playtime here.
3. Xenoblade Chronicles DE - Big world to get lost into and some of the cast members and story can make you feel inspired/motivated.
4. Dreamscaper - Very relatable but hard to progress if you suck at roguelikes.
5. Persona 4G and 5R - The best game(s) that I happened to stumble upon during these lockdowns. So many relatable characters and situations to make you reflect on past experiences.
6. Spiritfarer - Again relatable characters and story perfect for self-reflection.
7. I am Setsuna - Just bought recently and so far the story driven experience along with the charming cast of characters and somehow calm setting despite the hostilities makes me relaxed playing it at night.
8. Eastward - Beat it last year but I find its a similar experience to Setsuna.
9. Animal Crossing - Great source of good vibes. If only I can live in my ACNH island in real life then I'm content and at peace.
@Matt-e-r Kudos to packing in drinking dude. Love reading things like this. You do get a new sense of perception/ immersion when you give up the drink in a lot of aspects in life alongside gaming. I actually play through games I completed when I was a boozer and for most games, it’s like playing them for the first time. Almost like a 1/2 memory wipe.
I just want to say, I love these types of articles. It’s been wonderful reading everyone’s relationship to gaming. Really brings out a different side to the medium.
@Neckcrane
Thanks so much, my friend. There's a part of me that tries to reach others when they're in the state I (and presumably you too) was in, but you can't.
People have to discover it on their own for it to work, for some reason.
Glad to meet someone who's fallen a little bit more in love with gaming and life. Hope all is good with you.
Matt
I played a lot of WoW when my father fell ill and my then GF broke up with me. (yeah fun combo for you mental health)
FFXV for me. I had just moved halfway across the country, out of my family home for the first time & was struggling pretty bad with loneliness/anxiety. Totally new area, no friends, no family, no job etc. FFXV helped me to escape for a short while. The game's world & characters were there during such a stressful time ❤️
@Neckcrane This personal relationship that people have with certain games is what makes gaming such a wonderful medium.
So many people play the same game but have a different experience and context with it.
It's not about showing off hardware and blockbuster sales or having the newest tech or game to play.
But some people never get this to them gaming is all about moving forward and being on top of the hype and to some degree streamers and such contributed to this 'trend'.
I adore re-visiting old games some surpise me for I have not played them for so long, some are so ingrained in my brain that it feels like coming home.
Some are just reminders of simpler times, atleast for me as a person, or I can look at them in a different light because of the headspace I was in at that time.
But to a lot of people who don't 'get' gaming it's just mindless staring at a screen, cursing at people on the other side of the line or something.
My dad used to get annoyed at the blips and bleeps coming from the pc speaker as I played he never understoond me playing games and I never got him watching football(soccer for the yanks)
But I guess in that we did found some mutual understanding.
For me, Fire Emblem Awakening came out at the exact time in my life when I most needed it. Some bad experiences in high school and my friend circle completely splitting up after graduation caused me to become a recluse; I had been in college for a few years at that point and had basically no friends I actively talked to or spent time with and didn't go to any parties since I had thrown myself so deep into my school work. I grabbed Awakening on a whim when it released since I remembered having fun with the GBA and DS games in the series and I became obsessed, playing it every chance I could get when I was waiting on the campus for my classes to start and when I had free time in-between studying. For lack of a better term, it reawakened my love of Fire Emblem and I started talking with more people in the common areas of the campus when I happen to see them also playing Awakening.
And one summer, I actually decided to go to a convention that was being hosted in my town cosplaying as the main avatar character Robin and that started a conversation with another cosplayer who would slowly become my best friend and years after that, my best friend basically introduced me to the woman who would become my girlfriend now of over five years and just so happens to, as she puts it, breathes Fire Emblem. So in a way, Awakening basically broke me out of my social shell and helped me establish new relationships I had basically given up on after high school.
Super Metroid and Hollow Knight. I know both the worlds inside and out and could probably navigate without the help of a map at this point but something about just exploring completely takes my focus away on anything else.
ACNH really helped me with my anxiety during lockdown. Sayonara Wild Hearts is really good for taking my mind off things for an hour or two as well.
This is a great comments thread, the openness and honesty in it is a beautiful thing. Last year was a very hard year for me, full of loss and it was hard to even envision a future. One game I’m really thankful I played was Sakuna: Of Rice and Ruin. The story of all the characters having lost everything and finding a way to recreate their lives really touched me, and the meditative and rigorous process of growing the rice was very grounding. It’s a really lovely game and I’m thankful for the dedication of the developers to realize their vision and share it with the world!
@dugan @AmplifyMJ thanks for the kind words friends, i really appreciate them.
Hello. This is my first post here. I've been reading articles and the comments underneath them for a while. This article struck a cord with me, so I finally decided to make an account. I'm starting to recognize regulars, anyway.
I've had several points in my life where it just felt like everything was falling apart. Middle school, high school, college, and after failing college 3 times. I've experienced a lot of borderline abuse, failing grades, and betrayal from people who I thought were my friends. It's all very personal to me, so I won't go into much detail. Anyway, in middle school, the game I used to distract myself the most was Pokémon Black and Minecraft. In high school, it was Xenoblade X, and in college, it was Minecraft and BotW. Minecraft and Xenoblade X were the biggest forms of escapism for me. Minecraft is limitless and the scenery in Xenoblade X is absolutely jaw dropping for the hardware it was on. No other game has gotten me as absorbed into its world as Xenoblade X. It absorbed my troubles like a sponge.
I'm sorry for the lengthy comment, but I've had some pretty terrible experiences, and I wanted to rant about how I've had some amazing games to help me cope with them.
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