@Heavyarms55 Sorry to hear about your story, I hope you'll eventually find your way in things again. I can definitely relate to needing and wanting to be there for your remaining parent, though. I have the exact same with my dad. I would never forgive myself if I wouldn't be there for him, so all that shows is that you're a caring person, which is only ever a positive thing. I wish you strength and good luck, and if you ever feel the need to unload or rant, we'll be here...
@Anti-Matter For better tools: first make a flimsy fishing rod, axe or shovel. (or make them all) Then use the flimsy axe to hit trees and collect wood. There's three kinds: softwood, wood and hardwood. You'll need normal wood for tools. Collect at least 5 pieces of wood. Then you need to find loose stones, and make a stone axe. Then use the stone axe to hit the big light grey rocks found on your island.
Clumps of rock, clay and iron will fall out. With the iron, you can then make your tools more sturdy, by crafting them into better versions. But even those won't last forever, so you need to keep mining for materials. Oh, and use the Nook Miles ticket to visit other islands for more and/or different materials. If you don't have a ticket anymore, then just buy another one from the machine in Tom Nook's tent.
@Heavyarms55 I’m really sorry to hear that. I wish you good luck and hope you can find your way. We’ll always be here if you need to share your experience or emotions.
On a side note... last night I realized nearly every moderator has a short name... Eel, Octane, Santa, the only one I can think of with a long name is Joeynator3000.
Heigh Ho Heigh Ho. It’s off to work (from home) I go.
@Anti-Matter Oh, I forgot about Matthew! As you probably already know, I only joined this website in May, so I don’t know many, but I have a hobby of looking at past threads that are either:
Dead
Locked
Both
That’s how I came across the quick before the mods thread. So I know some, but I have only seen one comment from Matthew.
Heigh Ho Heigh Ho. It’s off to work (from home) I go.
@BabyYoshi12
Say, do you play ACNH ?
I need Cherry and Pear fruits to complete my fruits collection and need more sturdier equipments from Timmy & Tommy Mart.
Also, some fashionable items from Mabel and Kicks.
@Anti-Matter I do, but I don’t play as much any more- only about 5 minutes a day. I don’t have either of those fruits and I prefer not to play with strangers online unless it’s for turnips... sorry!
Heigh Ho Heigh Ho. It’s off to work (from home) I go.
@Tyranexx I'm around. End of fiscal year tomorrow at work, state budget changes, yada yada busy. Health things, too. Bleh. May share later. Have another follow up Wednesday and I'll know more etc.
@NintendoByNature Yeah, I'm totally not getting that present. I wiped my file on my OG when I started playing on my Lite
@Heavyarms55 That's unfortunate, yo. But for all the media hype, things aren't that rough here in the States. I guess your mileage may vary. Politics always sucks, and it's a Presidential election year, so it sucks more. No matter where you land, just be you. Don't make yourself feel bad for being you.
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@ThanosReXXX
Thanks for tips for ACNH. ☺
I have unlocked sturdier equipments from Nook Mile Points redeem.
Now, my job is assigning the villager's house as i have to be patient to accept the unwanted villagers based on the story progress and i will kick some butts when i have freedom to choose other villagers.
@Heavyarms55 Hey, no problem! I do try to genuinely listen to people and totally get the need to let out/hash through some of the emotions now and again; actually, I learned the hard way that bottling them up has some pretty negative consequences. That's one of the reasons why I think so highly of self-care as it's something I wasn't very good at for a period of time.
I can also relate on not fitting in. I've always been rather tomboyish, and I just about stopped playing with about anything girly at about ages 7-8. I've always liked things like dragons and dinosaurs (an extension of my love of animals, I'd say) and have been into cartoons, video games, and anime for almost as long as I can remember...though besides a few SNES games, I would say both Pokemon and Digimon really tipped that wagon lol. I've always been pretty creative and would spend hours inside my own head, reenacting what I was thinking or had seen in some show or read in some book with some of my toys, random objects, or just with a train of thought. Heck, I still daydream quite a bit at random times. Fictional worlds created by both others and my own mind were/are my bread and butter. A lot of it is just me being me, but some of it too was because I didn't have a lot of relatives close to me in age and didn't live in town, so I couldn't just go out and play with other kids after school all the time. I learned long ago how to keep myself entertained.
Honestly, a lot of this was "normal" (I believe the definition of "normal" changes from person to person, so there's no true normal IMO) until my school years right before Jr. High, which is when many kids start erroneously thinking that sort of stuff is childish and conformity becomes more important. I would hide some things (at school at least), but would still read and game quite a bit on the bus when I wasn't studying. I was never "girly" enough for a lot of the girls and wasn't really into dudebro games either (Halo and Call of Duty were often the hot topic games), though there was a small group of us who played World of Warcraft for about a year in HS before we got busy with the usual plethora of things that happen in senior year.
I had a small handful of true friends, but a lot of us were outcasts in general. I didn't go to a very large school, so some of the geeky/nerdy cliques that are found in larger school systems didn't really exist. The only reason anyone paid any attention to me at all was if they needed help with homework - I did very well in school - otherwise I was invisible most of the time. Few people were truly unpleasant to me (in HS anyway), but I don't wish to repeat the experience for various reasons. I admittedly did some stupid things (though nothing illegal) trying to make people like me back then due to some loneliness/past experiences. I've since learned that you can't please everyone, and that trying to do so is impossible. Those that don't accept you for you just aren't worth the stress and effort.
I admittedly never had a major interest in business either, but some of the courses of the main business track were integrated with my programming track in college. It was mostly introductory material, but I have found it helpful now and again. I could have also pursued another degree in general business at a university after completing my programming degree, but I opted to just enter the workforce at that point.
P.S. Don't worry, I wasn't under the impression that chopsticks were used for every single food item in Japan...though I think I do somewhat understand why they're more practical with some foods than others. XD If my failed experiences are anything to go by....In some of the anime and manga that I've seen/read, I've noticed chopsticks used along with normal silverware. At least in the material I've partaken in more recently; I didn't fully realize this at the time, but a lot of the anime I enjoyed watching as a kid was more "localized" than I realized. I understand this to a point, but even kid me knew a rice ball wasn't a jelly donut lol.
Edit: That got longer up there than I thought. O_o Pardon the book.
@ThanosReXXX Ah, good point. I haven't seen bimmy much of anywhere either. He's on his Switch every now and again, so I just assumed he was busy.
@HobbitGamer Oy. End of fiscal year for you guys too? Ours runs July 1st-June 30th as well. Thankfully I'm not involved with a lot of the administrative hubbub with that as it's mostly a HR thing. The business I work for indirectly deals with the state, but that's through a third-party.
Good luck! Particularly with the health things. I hope it's fairly decent news...or at least not bad news.
@Tyranexx I can hardly say anything about a long comment considering how long some of mine tend to be!
It definitely sounds like you understand what I mean about never fitting into the mold. While I agree that in everyone has their own normal, societal pressure is also a very big and real thing. Like you, I have a handful of true friends, and we're all oddballs. And now everyone lives far away. Not just because of me being in Japan, we all grew up in Michigan but now they have spread out to New Mexico, Texas and Utah. As well as my family having moved to Arizona - I'm not "returning" because nothing is like it was when I left. I might as well be moving to a whole new country - only this time it's not a dream come true but life b**** slapping me and giving me a reality check. Or so it feels...
@HobbitGamer It's less about feeling bad for being me as a resignation that being me - means being an eternal outsider in the country I was born in. That's what makes going back so hard. I know how weird it sounds but I fit in, here, so much better than I ever did in the US. One would think God's aim was off and I was meant to be born here. :/
@BabyYoshi12 It's because they are all part of the cult of short names. Soon they will force us all to change!
@ThanosReXXX Appreciated! Rant I likely will. At some point.
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Oh my gosh...!
Wedding Event will be ended several hours later. 😮
I was in hurry to get Isabelle in my island, built the Campsite and revert the date to normal since i played with Time Travel to speed up the progress.
Wait for me, Cyrus and Reese !
@Tyranexx Yeah, I've no idea what's up, but hoping it has nothing to do with the last discussion we had. Either way, I always figure that people will return whenever they're ready to do so, meaning I'm not going to bother them, or tag them just to get an explanation or to satisfy my own curiosity. But I do hope he'll return, at some point.
@Heavyarms55 You're welcome. A small piece of advice, although maybe also a bit of an obvious one: don't make things bigger or too heavy in your head, and try to keep an open mind, regardless. Some doors have now closed for you, so lingering on those negatives, or the potential new negatives that you mentioned, isn't going to do you much good.
So, I'd say focus on what IS still possible, and what the good things are about your return and what you can mean for your direct family. It might just give you some more purpose and peace of mind...
But having said that, don't change or try to shoehorn yourself into some box that you aren't. People should either accept you for who you are, or stfu. If they have an issue with that, well... then that's EXACTLY what it is: THEIR issue, NOT yours. People like that aren't worth the time and energy spent on them.
@Tyranexx P.S.
Never thought I'd see the day that you'd also start to create text walls...
All kidding aside, though: if you're anything like me, then using that much text either means that you want to be crystal clear, or that it's something that also had a significant effect on your own life, which makes you invested in the topic, to some extent. Obviously, the latter seems to be the case here.
Seems like we have quite the outcast club over here, because I never really fit in either. But, luckily (or maybe not, depending on your view), I've always been something of a chameleon, and I adapt very well to pretty much any type of situation, so I never had any troubles mingling with other people whenever I had to. Probably also because of my highly empathic nature, meaning I've been able to hone my "people-reading" skills over the years, which definitely also helped.
Also with getting out of hairy situations in high school, by the way...
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