The girl I'm sorta talking to...she's giving me vibes/hints that she thinks gaming is for nerds/losers.
Would you ever date who looks down on your gaming hobbies/pastime?
Gaming for losers ?!
If she said like that, i will NEVER give any Respect to her.
That's insulting me as a gamer.
I can call her B###h because she disrespect my hobbies.
And Oh....
I Will NEVER want to date with someone.
If my significant other doesn't have any interest in or enjoy gaming or my other hobbies, that's fine. I won't force someone to do what they don't enjoy. But if they're constantly putting me down for what I love (what I consider a red flag in a relationship), then see ya, bucko. There's the door.
Granted, some people merely need to be educated that the vast majority of us who game as a hobby aren't doomed to be lazy, unshowered hermits who communicate in L33T and chug Mountain Dew 24/7.
I think what matters is that the person doesn't disparage you for it, because that way you'll always have conflicts.
"I want to buy this new game"
"If you have money to buy that new game, you should have bought me something"
:V just selfishness or something? Idk, but it's always better to be with someone you can talk about it rationally with, or at least not disparaging you for your choice.
Like if she likes movies more for example, then it should be okay for you to just play next to her. Like just spending time with each other is fine.
@Lloiddd
It depends on the person.
My soon to be wife does NOT like gaming. She is NOT interested in it but she respects my hobby. Almost half of my games and consoles are gifts from her. Hell my Switch was a surprise present from her From time to time I am too obsessed with my games and this is what is the problem.
If you game like a normal person NOT like the World of Warcraft idiot I was it is fine
But if SHE (your girl) thinks gaming is for losers SHE is not worth it.
Dating relies on sharing interests to some extent. However, having differing interests can also help keep life interesting. My wife has no interest in gaming, but isn't bothered with mine. I have dated people that enjoy gaming. Funnily enough, those relationships weren't as fulfilling.
My wife is a gamer. I admit that my life is even better cause of that. Let's be honest, when my wife comes back home with a pile of games how I couldn't be happy !
I can't imagine to share my life with someone who doesn't share the same interests as me. She say the same to me too.
As the human race, we are split into introverts and extroverts. As introverts they are thinking people, always doing their own thing without following trends, maybe seem to have a better IQ as can make decisions for themselves, without relaying on other people.
Sadly we now come to extroverts. Those creatures are known for following other people like sheep. They are also known by others as "dudebros" and "sheep" trying to be "normal" and fitting in. Most commonly into action movies and sport crap. Also prefers to spend £££ money on expensive holidays and very focused on getting into relationships as early as possible, because its very important to "fit in" and not "die alone". In fact, those people are secretly very insecure.
Let me as you another question: Do you want a girlfriend just for fitting in and for being "normal" (dudebro talk for insecure)? Or do you want to be innovative and do your own thing? Do you enjoy gaming, or prefer to go around restaurants on a Sunday afternoon, to try and "fit in", oir even wasting money on an expensive hair cut for short hair, just to please extroverted people?
I embraced gaming again after my first child was born. I was probably looking for my own source of fun and interest to compensate for the compromise I'd made. I wanted to be able to be around the house whenever needed but still have something new and interesting of my own to pursue.
Having children can put distance in a relationship, and I was filling that distance with gaming.
My other half doesn't really 'get' gaming nowadays. It's annoying, cos when she was a kid she had a NES and played SMB a fair amount apparently, and it was her idea to get a Wii, which we played a bit together but never really getting into it.
But now she's got kids she takes everything more seriously and doesn't seem to see any benefit from gaming. This means that the time/money I put into gaming can be a source of aggro. And even when she's just sitting on the sofa reading or watching something, she'll have a moan about the sound/music from whatever game I'm playing, or the noise of all the clicking of the controller I'm using, so I have to try and only play low intensity games when she's around, and I don't dare play any Gamecube games, cos the trigger buttons on that controller are so noisy.
For better or worse, this barrier I was coming up against pushed me into starting to do things in secret. I've bought a 3DS, PS3, PS4, XB1 and Switch all behind her back, keep them hidden and only play them when she's asleep etc.
The secrecy does add to the fun of it. But there's also a stress to it of course, and it means I've got all these games to play but only restricted windows of opportunity in which to play them, so my backlog is absurd.
She doesn't mind me playing games, but she'd prefer me to put the time into her, or doing up our house, but she doesn't really do any of that herself, and I'm just the sort of person who's content with simple things, so feel no great rush to get those jobs finished.
If we didn't have kids we would probably have separated, but she might not be as uptight either, so who knows.
If we broke up I don't particularly see me pursuing another cohabiting relationship, but I would certainly be interested to try a relationship with someone who's a bit more easy-going with the idea of adult gaming, and preferably into the scene herself.
I would definitely avoid a relationship with some who didn't respect/value the enjoyment I get from gaming.
You guys had me at blood and semen.
What better way to celebrate than firing something out of the pipe?
Man, I respect you on the highest point I could respect someone.
What you just wrote is really touching, I mean I have read your post almost like I could read a page from a book.
You talk with your heart, I can sense it.
I almost feel sad about what I have written about my wife just above. The fact that she's a gamer etc...
@NiaBladerunner your painting with a VERY broad brush with your introvert vs extrovert take. It's much more nuanced than that..
To answer the question, no that alone wouldn't be a deal breaker. If she is rude or condescending that's one thing, but if she's just not into it than ok. My wife and I ha e lots of differing interests but I see that as a great thing.
@Cobalt Hey, if you are both happily married and are both gamers, than all the more power to you on doing both. Consider my argument flawed on that count.
No, I wouldn't interact with someone that is clearly set in their opinion enough to look down on or be dismissive of others that participate in something that they do not. Whether it be gaming or gardening, the same basic decency needs to apply; be open-minded of others and you might find something new to enjoy as well.
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