Topic: Pokemon Ruined my Relationship

You made a good choice. If she's gonna about your likes and generalize your passion with generic sterotypes, you had all the reason in the world to end your relationship, to end fights that would start up in the future.

I'd choose a Chikorita over that chick.

haha, pimp status. you totally did the right thing. walk home, woman.

Pfft, maybe in your mind...

Nope, sorry. My girl can't even operate a controller, she's never read a comic book, etc, etc, etc. My nerdyness has no impact on our relationship or how she views me. JayArr's girl has control issues if she's unwilling to let him be him.

HAHA @lockelocke thats right woman, your walking home. but seriously, next time try finding someone compatible, someone who likes games like you do. the relationship is much easier and more fun if you both play games. (except when your girlfriend is a sore loser and pouts everytime you beat her :3

but obliviously dont base everything on video games, if you partner doesnt play games its not the end of the world.

Definitely not. My girlfriend loves Final Fantasy but I know for a fact she could never get into a complex game like Metal Gear Solid 4 or play a game like CoD. She's too pretty to be a "nerd" too. Maybe a dork once in awhile but I love that because everyone should be a dork once in a while. xD

There's nothing in that (no doubt not entirely accurately summarized) conversation about "letting him be him". He literally told her to walk home and get out of his life because she, knowing nothing about video games, correctly assumed Pokemon was for kids. I have severe doubts your girl hasn't, at some point in her life, thought your video games and comics can be pretty dumb, too.

@Adamant: she might've thought so, but i'm sure she was careful enough to phrase what she had to say tastefully and with a thoughtfulness that showed consideration for lockelocke's feelings. unfortunately, JayArr's girl couldn't find it in her to do the same. i may not enjoy all the same things my husband enjoys, but i don't tell him to his face that i think his interests are stupid or crap, especially when it's something he clearly feels strongly about.

I think you made the right move, Jay. She doesn't seem like the kind of woman you'd spend the rest of your leveling up with in the Day Care Center. I mean, you really wanna pass off your Egg Moves to a chick like that? Her IVs are probably pretty low. I'm just thinking, Ash has had how many women come and go, but where has Pikachu gone? Nowhere! He even brought the guy BACK TO LIFE! That's true companionship.

She had some time with the Master Balls; it was time to release her back into the wild with a big ol' "We hope to see you again! NOT!"

The girl was being a jerk about it, but just dumping them in the middle of the street is not something a gentleman would do.

Anyways, when I like a character I try no to sit on its image either.
_{It's like that toilet paper they make with the face of Hello Kitty printed on it, I mean, who thought that was a good idea?!}

@Adamant

No doubt my girl thinks the things i'm into are borderline pointless, but she doesn't sweat me about them. It's vice versa. My girl works in reality television and is very passionate about it. It's an industry that I find borderline repulsive, but I want whatever makes her happy.

And I'd say that Erica's calling JayArr's interests "just weird," or saying that she thought he played normal games like "other guys" is just belittling and downright oppressive. To me, that constitutes "not letting him be him."

I def would've kicked her out. Well played.

Being unable to accept that other people may not like your interests, or even find them stupid, and not being able to take jokes about this conflict of interest, makes you an incredibly shallow and insecure person. JayArr is so uncomfortable with his liking of Pokemon that he even feels the need to lie to both himself and others that the game is NOT a kids' game, and is unable to take comments about how it's weird for a person his age to play something made for much younger audience to the point of immediately, and rudely, breaking contact with them entirely.

Even in this biased transcription of the events, it's clear that this girl knows nothing about video games or Pokemon, apart from the fact that "Pokemon" is something she knows kids play. If your interests include childrens' entertainment, and you're unable to take jokes about liking stuff intended for a different audience than you, you'll have severe trouble interacting with people who either don't share your interests or incredibly over-polite people who finds your company so amazing they tip-toe around doing everything in their need not to offend your delicate sensibilities. That's not a very healthy life.

@JayArr: You play video games intended for young children, and take an extreme interest in these. This is not normal in most people's eyes, and they will think this interest is somewhat weird. Accept that, become secure enough in yourself that you're able to kid around with the fact that you like this stuff, and you will be able to live a much better life.

@Adamant

I see your point in that JayArr didn't NEED to react right away and kick her out, but I don't think his feelings are at all unjustified. It's not that he needs to defend Pokemon as a legit game, it's that the girl is forcing him to defend himself as not weird. If you like someone, you should like them for who they are TOTALLY. Not just the little pieces you decide are cool. If she thinks he's totally super awesome UNTIL she finds out he likes Pokemon, then she never was committed to begin with. WALK HOME

I hereby nominate this thread for Hall of Fame status.
_{mainly because i can't keep up a straight-faced facade anymore, sorry JR :3}

awwww this is a gag? i was gettin all into it.

This was a joke? Nice work. Haha...

SHOULD HAVE DATED SABRINA

_{plaaaaay with meeeeee}

YEAH!!!!

What actually happened there was that he was completely unable to cope with the fact that she thought liking toys made for little children at his age was somewhat weird (which... well, it is), and told her off. Even in his transcript, she never asked him to defend himself, never made any sort of ultimatum, just correctly pointed out that liking these toys at his age is weird. He even points out that she didn't know the slightest thing about Pokemon other than that it was a kids' toy. The correct response would be to just point out that yes, it is a bit weird. He likes stuff made for little kids, he has to be able to take jokes about that if he wants to associate with average people. If he's going to explode like this every time someone makes a Pokemon joke, he's in for a sad and lonely life as "that weirdo who's really uptight about his toys".

^You can stop now, the cat's outta the bag.n_n