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moomoo123

OK, well there is a girl at my school who I have liked for about 6 months now, and I haven't talked to her much aside from a few chats on Facebook. I'm kind of shy so I'm wondering if any of you guys could give me any advice about how to talk to her?

Btw, I've known her for about 2 years, and we are both 14, and we both love Pokemon (but I love it a lot more)

moomoo123

JadeGirl

I am a girl, but I hope this helps. You can just muster some courage and go to her tell her that you like her and would she be willing to date you. I know someone that was very shy and did not want to tell me his feelings, BTW got to him first because he never asked.

So don't miss a chance just tell her the way you feel, or she will never know and she might even like you but is waiting for you to speak up.

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GameLord08

Despite my misleading username, I'm also a girl. The thing is, if you like her, be direct. But don't be too forward. Approach her, and just tell her you like her. This is easier said than done, but we appreciate when you walk up to us. She'll appreciate that you mustered up all that courage for her.

You probably didn't have this in mind anyway, but I'd advise you not to try flowers or anything.

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Reala

Let her know you care, for example tell her you dress as her and listen to recordings of poems you wrote about her so its if the 2 of you are there together, just be romantic basically.

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Raylax

Stare at her, unblinkingly, emotionless, for at least 45 minutes. Works every time. You may need to employ someone to intermittantly spray water into your unblinking and rapidly drying eyes, but if anything that only improves the effect

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LzWinky

Stalk her until the end of time! Women love stalkers..

But for real SAY SOMETHING TO HER (that's not incredibly stupid). Unless she has a crush on you she won't say anything so you need to be the conversation starter

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Jango-Forest

You say you both like Pokemon, eh? What you need is a plan of action:
Catch a Jynx. Name it "I <3 U". Get it to level 100. Trade it with her.
Not too forward, not too bashful, and she'll appreciate the effort.
Guaranteed success.

Jango-Forest

Raylax

Hide in her bins.

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Reala

If your really nervous practice chat up lines on your prettiest guy friend that way you can receive some feedback.

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Reala

LzWinky

@pix: Nice

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Kriedler

I have a simple plan, and it only requires an approximately 6 month investment.
Get a full-time after-school job. Save up $2100. Bring $1000 to school and say "HEY I FOUND THIS $1000 BY YOUR LOCKER DID YOU DROP IT?!"
When she says "yes (and she will say yes, unless she's honest, in which case fall to plan B, outlined afterwards)" follow up with "HEY THERE'S ANOTHER $1000 AT THIS FANCY ITALIAN RESTAURANT I HAPPEN TO HAVE A TABLE FOR 2 RESERVED AT (awkward grammar is charming, and don't lose your balls if she reminds you that you can't end a sentence with a preposition like "at")"
The extra $100 is for the cost of the fancy Italian dinner. Don't use any less than that. If you spend $50 on the dinner, tip with the rest.
Start saving again, 'cause she'll want to get married pretty much immediately afterwards.
Plan B) Just talk to her, be yourself, and don't be afraid to show that you're shy or that you had to work up the courage to talk to her. I can't speak for the girls specifically on this site, but the girls I've come into contact with take nervousness as flattery. Don't confuse this with lacking confidence, though. If you're just a nervous wreck and stutter through the whole thing she'll think you're a douche ;P
Then again, like 90% of girls seem to like douches, but that's where the advice ends and the rant begins
I wish you luck, little bro

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Noire

Have a hilarious planned accident where you fall on top of her and your lips meet just briefly. If she's part of a vampire ninja clan then cheese yeah she's now married to you. If not then at least you got to kiss her and maybe she'll fall in love with you just because of that.

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LordJumpMad

You know whats worst then waiting too long to ask a girl, to be your girlfriend.
Watching other guy beat you to it.
She won't stay single forever, you better ask now, before it's too late.

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CowLaunch

TBD! She's a lover not a fighter I hope!

Bet her $20 dollars that you can kiss her without touching her, then passionately kiss her on the lips and then try to give her the winnings (she won't accept it, and will pull you in closer to kiss you some more).

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SpentAllMyTokens

Well, you obviously have talked to this girl a bit, since you know about a couple of her interests.

Here's what you do next time you speak with her.
1) Keep conversation light, just chat for a few minutes about school, pokemon, weather, doesn't matter. Crack a joke if you can, as long as it's not making fun of her. A good time to ask might be between classes or at the end of lunch. You'll want to have somewhere to be after the conversation.

2) After about 5 minutes say "Hey, would you like to (insert activity) at (insert time/day suggestion). Be specific about the activity (can be lunch, go to a sports game, play tennis at the park, battle pokemans etc.). Ideally, you want something where you can talk to each other, but there's something else to do. This way, you shouldn't feel pressured to carry conversation for hours with someone you don't know super well yet - and the activity gives you some talking points to break the ice. Don't refer to it as a date. That's too much pressure.

3) She'll give you 3 possible responses:
a) Yes. Congrats. Finalize time plans.

b) I'm busy. This could mean 2 things: either she means "I'm busy" or "I'm not interested." Since you didn't refer to it as a date, it's likely she's just busy. If she doesn't volunteer an alternate suggestion/time, just say "That's cool, when would be better for you?" If she is hesitant to give you a better time, just say "no problem, sounds like you're swamped," make small talk for a bit (no longer than a couple of minutes), then have someplace to be.

c) No. It's not meant to be right now, my friend. Just keep cool, "No problem, I'll see you in class (or wherever)."

4) If you got a yes: Hang out, ask questions, LISTEN, and have fun. Keep things light and try to get to know her better to see if you still like her.

If you got a busy/no: it's not the end of the world. Going forward, if opportunity to talk to her presents itself, take it, but keep conversations light and brief. Be nice but don't go out of your way to be around her. Ask about what activities she's doing, so you sincerely get to know her when you do talk. Ask how said activities went next time you see her.

There's a pretty good chance she'll ask you to hang out, but if she doesn't, repeat steps 1-3 in a couple of weeks. If the answer is still no, give her some space, let her initiate conversation (don't ignore her in the halls if you usually say hi to each other, just don't go out of your way to talk to her) and hang out with friends and have fun!

If she says no the first time you ask, it's not that she doesn't like you. She just may not know you well enough to feel comfortable in a one-on-one situation. Just talk to her like you would a friend, and if things are meant to happen, they will.

I know that's long, but now as a grown up, this is all stuff I wish I knew, so approaching the opposite sex didn't have to be so full of stress as a teenager. The most important thing is to just be cool and have fun. If you're having fun, people will want to be with you, because you're fun for them to be around. If you act intimidated - you're not having fun.

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thesignpainter

get her flowers, girls love flowers. right?

All the children try to run,
To him its part of the fun.
His branching arms are for collecting,
His face is empty of expressing.
He sometimes hums a lowly drone,
He will wander 'round your home.
Dressed in darkest suit and tie,
He won't let you say goodbye.

Raylax

Hide in her fridge. Act nonchalant and pass her the bread when she opens it and screams in terror.

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