Topic: I have girlfriend issues...

I find it fundamentally dishonest and unnecessarily confrontational, since it means you're not actually looking for a honest answer at all.

On a much smaller scale, it's the inquisition all over again.

But then, I'm long removed from teenage relationships. It's a foreign concept to me to keep separate money from my girlfriend shrugs - mabye $20 is a big deal.

@waltz: it's great that you have such an honest, open, and above-all trusting relationship with your girlfriend, but sadly, not everyone is so lucky. all he has to do is be more careful now that he knows she's stolen from him and lied about it -- who knows, he's probably got his reasons for sticking with her and giving her another chance. maybe she's smokin' hot?

Well, basically, if you can't trust your girlfriend, it's time to move on - the relationship cannot succeed.

Relationships are built on trust, without trust theres no relationship at all. So stuff like this is dishonest, sure its just $20 but now she knows she can get away with it whats to stop her slippin out another $20 the next time? Stuff like that mounts up and will become a big deal eventually

A real girlfriend would care enough not to steal her boyfriends money or at least fess up if rumbled. Plus you know it isnt just your imagination, money WAS gone from your stash and you know it. Don't stick with this girl just because she made goo-goo eyes and pleaded innocence, she'll just do it again (of if you must stick with her, may I suggest putting your money in a savings account or something more secure like a safe?)

I mean what you do is up to you, but don't fool yourself into thinking there is any future with this girl because otherwise shes gonna break your bank AND your heart.

He admits in the first post he's heard bad stuff about her, rumor mill or not I personally would find it hard to justify sticking with someone simply because they are pretty to look at or good in certain ahem situations. I mean she was caught almost red handed and she still lied. Maybe if she'd been honest than yeah giving her another chance might make sense. But far as I'm concerned cheating or stealing = the end of any realtionship unless they've been together a long time or married (in which case then yes you should try working it out)

Break up with her. And why did you tell her where you hid your money! The **** is wrong with you!!??!!

Cause he trusted her.

EDIT: However, what if she didn't take a 20, she glued a 20 to another 20?? Or maybe, it was an act of God.

Eh I still think it was just OP's mind playing tricks on himself.
There are times that I thought ~$200 was missing from my wallet, and recounted everything I spent money on the past few days, and I still seemed short.
Then eventually I remember something and it all makes sense.

Also, if you remembered that her hair clip was on top of your arcade machine, isn't it possible that she remembered it was there, too? Or that maybe she saw it earlier in the day?

Also when you saw that she grabbed her hair clip from your room, your first thought was to check to see if she stole some of your $119. To think that someone's out to get your $119 is pretty paranoid to begin with.
Finding a discrepancy of one bill is pretty normal anyway - maybe you grabbed the 20 to get some lunch, or to buy a classic controller, or maybe you never even had it to begin with and you simply miscounted!

Anyway I think it's kind of foolhardy to make such strong accusations against your significant other when you can't even be sure that there's actually money missing at all.

_{Edit: Of course if you're like, 15, then $119 is a lot and I would be more apt to believe that you know how much money you had in your SPM case. But what 15-year-old has an arcade machine?}

Well I wasn't like “Hey babe, just thought you should know I keep my money in the Paper Mario case.” The only reason she knows is because one time when I needed money and went into the case to get some, she happened to have been in the game room. Anyway, now my new policy is, no one knows where my money is except for me.

Well, we all do. In the Paper Mario case. XD

_{sorry i had to}

I'm actually 17. Even though I am very sure of what she did, I decided to give her another chance for just the reasons you have outlined. I figured maybe if she did take it, she really needed it and is just embarrased to get caught. Also, if by some odd fluke I am mistaken somewhere, it would be pretty strawberry dumping her for something I wasn't 100% sure she did. I forgot who posted this but someone mentioned how everyone deserves a second chance and I agree.

No. You didn't give her another chance. You asked for an "honest answer" but you were not prepared to accept "no, I did not take the money" as an honest answer. In your head you are 100% certain she took the money, and you have condemned her.

You do not trust her and so you may as well end the relationship now, because it's futile without trust.

that's great? you're not him, and neither am I; i've known dudes who stayed with hot chicks even though they were physically and verbally abusive and all-around horrible people just because they were hot (and vice versa). i'm not trying to justify that, i was just saying that any dude could come up with that (among other possible reasons) to stick around a chick he knows is a thief and a liar.

Actually, I have accepted her innocence plea. Yes, I was rather positive that she was the culprit but in realising there is such a thing as human error, I gave her the benefit of the doubt. And yes, I do still trust her. Is it possible that she lied through her teeth? Sure it is, but reguardless, I've decided to put it behind us. Trust me, If I truly had no trust in her, this would not have been the outcome.

That's the only reason anyone sticks with me for longer than 10 minutes...

@V: lol, you mean they just stand around and watch while you're out shoveling snow and rescuing little old ladies?

Ahh denial, a blissful state of mind where you ignore the warning bells that rang off earlier and tell yourself that everything is okay now

Yes people do deserve second chances, but this girl lied to you. She hasn't even admitted her guilt in the slightest, personally I'ld see that as a major insult to my intelligence that someone would lie to me even though I am almost certain they did something. It also means they don't feel a shred of guilt about being dishonest to you to boot. She's showing you major disrespect.

I mean I expect friends to be honest with me let alone my boyfriend, your partner is supposed to be someone you feel secure with and trustworthy above all other people. If its anything less then in all honesty in the long run your just wasting time and money on someone who you might find doesn't deserve any of it anyway. Your only 17 and YOU deserve so much more than a thief and a liar

Ok, the wording in your earlier post seemed to suggest otherwise, but that's good. I hope things work out for you both, and I hope for your sake she is a honest person.

That's the only reason anyone sticks with me for longer than 10 minutes...

It's the mask. It's irresistable.

Ahh denial, a blissful state of mind where you ignore the warning bells that rang off earlier and tell yourself that everything is okay now

Yes people do deserve second chances, but this girl lied to you. She hasn't even admitted her guilt in the slightest, personally I'ld see that as a major insult to my intelligence that someone would lie to me even though I am almost certain they did something. It also means they don't feel a shred of guilt about being dishonest to you to boot. She's showing you major disrespect.

I mean I expect friends to be honest with me let alone my boyfriend, your partner is supposed to be someone you feel secure with and trustworthy above all other people. If its anything less then in all honesty in the long run your just wasting time and money on someone who you might find doesn't deserve any of it anyway. Your only 17 and YOU deserve so much more than a thief and a liar

You have proof she's a liar?

I recall a famous TV show.

The Jetsons. The theme song. Mr. Jetson takes a bill out of his wallet, and then Mrs. Jetson takes the wallet instead of the bill.

sigh good times.

Hide your money somewhere else, dude.

@Rebecca: Well thats all fine and good...if she infact did it which I have made clear that although that is what I had believed, I have given her the benefit of the doubt on this one. If down the line I do obtain hard evidence of her thievory in this incident or possibly another down the road and there is no question that she did it, then yeah, it's pretty much over. I see what your saying and if it did turn out that she was just playing me for a fool, then shes done.

See, that's the problem. You're drinking from a well which you have convincing evidence has been poisoned, trying to get enjoyment before the toxin kicks in.

You can only pick one culprit in the situation you've described: who are you going to believe, your girlfriend or your own lying eyes?