Topic: Have you ever been a pallbearer?

I have some sad news to report: my grandpa passed away last week.

The funeral was a few days ago and I was deeply humbled to be a pallbearer, which is the first time I have had that honor. So I was wondering if any of you have ever been a pallbearer?

Woah dude, very sorry to hear that, I hope you're ok. I helped carry a friend to the church when I was 16, I didn't feel honoured at the time, just numb. Looking back though it makes me proud to have at least done that for him. I wish I still lived in that town, I miss going to visit his gravestone and getting drunk with him and just chatting. Time for another drink me thinks.

Thanks Machu!

My grandpa had a long life at 91 years of age, but I still think you are never ready to say goodbye. His death was sudden he wasn't ill he just had a stroke and drifted in a coma and then died.

I did get teary-eyed. Especially, when I saw my mom, aunts, and uncle breaking down in tears. I wasn't expecting to be a pallbearer, I thought it would of went to a more older male in the family, but I guess it makes sense that the grandchildren would be pallbearers.

Sorry, to hear you lost your friend at such a young age. I'm sure he was proud of you.

Sorry to hear this. Don't remember ever being a pallbearer. I only have one grandparent left myself. Lost an uncle (one yr older than me) a little while back (around Year? not sure.) Had two older friends my fiance and I knew that passed away (and one who was the mother of a friend of mine) some months ago. one was so sudden, we didn't even know he was going to die. He was in a home for about a week, I think and we didn't even know it or we would have went to see him. Felt terrible. Wanted him to be best man one day because he kinda had a part in me meeting my fiance. Should have spent more time with him.

I think about him fleetingly but it was nice to wallow in the memory for a moment, I hadn't done that in a while. Thanks. He was a real cool dude who everyone loved, it still seems wrong that he didn't get chance to live the rest of his life. As I have grown older and begun to understand the importance of life, I think that moment acted as a turning point for me, though it was only years later that I began to realise that. It affected us all greatly at the time, being so young, but it's made me stronger in the long run. My personal fondness for the theory of multiple, ever branching time-lines, was brought about whilst looking for some hope. He's alive, somewhere, sometime, just not in my universe. But yeah, that's a different story. A way for me to understand.

The fact that you feel so honoured, would make your grandpa proud. I'm happy he got so many good years, let's hope we are that lucky also.

My great grandmother died today...

My dad died when I was 16, and while I believe the extended family thought it would be too hard for me to be a pallbearer in that scenario, I have had a number of relatedly somber honors / duties over the years, like escorting down the aisle and "giving away" my 3 sisters in marriage in place of him. I do take these ceremonial matters seriously when they involve family; carrying the casket for your grandmother in indeed something you should consider a genuine honor.

@GabeGreens: Commiserations dude.

Sorry for you guys losses. To answer your question I have been a pallbearer for the loss of my grandmother.

Sorry, to hear of your recent loss GabeGreens.

Wow, Warioswoods, sorry to hear your father passed away when you were still so young. That must of been rough. I'm sure he's proud of you for giving away his daughters at their weddings.