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Topic: Does your girlfriend have to be a gamer?

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clicketyclick

41. Posted:

@The Fox: Mail em out to canada, will ya? I'll pay duties and shipping. :P

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SwerdMurd

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@click - that may be the easiest way to get a guy to drunk-bang you at a party....I don't honestly think I've ever wanted to date a girl that acts ditzy/dumb though..although that doesn't mean they can't act like that, still look physically attractive, and make themselves look like easy targets. If you seeing these ditzy girls "getting guys" in these contexts makes you think that's what guys go for then I can see how it looks this way, but you aren't seeing what happens once they're behind closed doors...those types of girls never find lasting relationships, and if they do they're with morons (I have several friends in that exact relationship type).

And yeah, gamer girls don't do much for me. They seem entirely too preoccupied with proving how "hardcore" they are and throwing VG stats/names at me all the time...I do most of my VG talking online, as I spend entirely too many hours a day writing/dealing with videogames and tend to like to touch on other topics of conversation IRL. Plus, videogame conversation can turn very political, so-to-speak, what with the battle-lines of console favoritism and such, and turbo-opinionated girls that have other gaming preferences than myself (and throw them in my face all the time--you're allowed to have dissenting opinions, just don't rape me w/ them constantly) do not make me want to spend any extra time around them, much less date them. I tend to find much more common ground/genuine interest in girls with other hobbies.

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Adam

43. Posted:

Well, I was just joking, Fox, trying to lighten things up, but kudos for honesty. ;)

(Just kidding, I did read your whole comment.)

I've noticed the whole "guy who wants to be the girl's 'teacher'" thing, too. It's sad, too, that a lot of girls go along with this notion, these people who only define themselves in relation to someone else.

It's a generally young board, though, Click, so I wouldn't despair from the comments.

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malpon

44. Posted:

As swerd said gamer girls tend to be to focused on the being "hardcore" it's like "yes killing zombies was fun can I play some Mario now wothout being judged!"

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clicketyclick

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You see, Swerd, that's the problem though. Guys who play video games don't want to date girls who game, and guys who don't play video games because they think its nerdy think girls who do must be super lesbian nerds.

What's the resort for girls who aren't nerds but do game, except to pretend they're not gamers by pretending to be bad at it and to pretending to let the guy educate them about this stuff (aka. being ditzy)?

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46. Posted:

clicketyclick wrote:

Whatever you say, V. The easiest way to impress a guy is still to make him think he knows more than you. Self-confidence is unattractive.

Self-confidence is attractive; there is nothing more sexy than someone who's comfortable enough in their own skin to relax and shoot the breeze with you. There's a fine line between just being self-confident and just being pushy or overbearing, however, both of which are very much not attractive in the slightest. The easiest way to impress some guys is still very much to act the ditz around them, but do you really want to be with those guys? :/

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47. Posted:

malnin wrote:

As swerd said gamer girls tend to be to focused on the being "hardcore" it's like "yes killing zombies was fun can I play some Mario now wothout being judged!"

I don't think that stereotype is helping any. And if they are pretending to like "hardcore" games just so they can play the games they want to without being judged, that seems like a problem for the male gamer, not the female. It isn't her fault if that's what she has to do to avoid being judged.

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48. Posted:

I've learned by now not to seek out any "type" of girl. Every one I've fallen for has been completely different than what I would ever envision as a girl for me.

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49. Posted:

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Self-confidence is attractive

Well, that's what you say as a woman.

Scientifically, it's been proven that self-confidence is not attractive in a woman. Even when people are expected to be self-confident, like in a job interview, it is detrimental to the woman. She's seen as less likable the more confident she is. Statistically measured in controlled experiments. You have one of two choices: be confident and you'll be judged competent but unlikable, or be unconfident and you'll be judged likable but incompetent.

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malpon

50. Posted:

@Adam I mean im the one being judged. They just seem to wanna kill things.

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SwerdMurd

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It's not pretending your not a gamer--it's just not making it your entire world. It's that girls, due to being the gaming minority, seem to try to make up for it with overzealousness that reads, to my gender, "I'm trying too hard." TBH, I think to be a "functional nerd" everyone needs to dial down their videogame favoritism a notch in public--if I was 100% brutally honest out-of-the-gate about how much I enjoy/play videogames, I'd assume I'd scare the opposite sex off and rightfully so. TBH, if you're a girl that isn't a nerd but games, I can't see you having a problem. You meet dudes, act like yourself, and if the topic of videogames come up you always have 2 cents to add and are able to hold your own. I can't see any guy not loving the ability to co-op with his ladyfriend...just don't be too crack-obsessed with it :)

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WaLuigi1982

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This is not to stir things up. But, I have personally never met a woman that likes to game. Keep in mind I live in a tiny village of 700. Closest town is 20 miles. And closest city is 90 miles. Keep that in mind. So the only place to meet women where I live is the bar, or the occasional bowling alley that has a bar in it (I do not drink). My biggest hobbies are gaming, watching a football game (NFL) on Sunday and the occasional Chicago Cubs game and Star Trek (Live Long and Prosper) and Stargate. Most women I have met in my area and I have lived here my entire life dislike guys that are into Star Trek or gaming. Part of the reason I stay single is I am not going to change to cater to someones ideals of what I should be.

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53. Posted:

@clickety: links to these studies, plz? i get the theory, but i'd like to read the statistics, they sound interesting.

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Adam

54. Posted:

@malnin
It'd help to identify the quote, then. My bad.

But honestly, I don't see where you guys are picking up on this. My sisters grew up playing games and still do. My younger sister does like Left 4 Dead, but it's far from the norm for her. When we play video games, it's usually Buzz or Wii Sports, and not because she's some casual stereotype: Her fiance and I like these games at least as much. On top of this, I have female friends who play Zelda, and ex-girlfriends who play Mega Man or Mario. Not everyone is a walking stereotype. I don't know anyone like that, personally. Maybe you are just hanging around with the wrong people? Not that there is anything wrong with liking zombie games, but you apparently don't like them.

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Swerd, the stereotype you express of girl gamers is what makes it necessary for me to pretend not to be a gamer at all. When I merely admit I'm a gamer, that stereotype is immediately evoked in the mind of the guy I tell it to and he has the same reaction that you have.

You don't know how many times I've had to sit through guys explaining to me what Halo is and who Master Chief is while trying to restrain myself from saying "it's overrated and why don't you play a good fps". Yes yes, please, explain to me again who Mario is.

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lack of self-confidence is very unattractive. You may think otherwise because you've been exposed to guys who are jerks, but I hate it when girls aren't happy with themselves, as should every guy worth having. It's so annoying when you know a girl is attractive, or just a great girl overall, and she's not happy with herself. It's a pretty big turn-off. I don't want to spend most of my time with you trying to convince you that you're smart, pretty, or popular

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malpon

57. Posted:

Its hard to stop sterotyping when you'v never met a person who doesent fall into it. I must be hanging around the wrong people I agree on that. I'd love to be proven wrong.

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SwerdMurd

58. Posted:

You must be dating idiots then, that's all I can figure. TBH, if they even mention Halo that should be a cue to run for the door.

Again, if a girl mentions she's into some type of electronic, it's the same situation for me, listening to them talk about how "LOLMAZING" Tiesto and Paul Oakenfold are...while I'm sitting there contemplating seppoku angry that they don't have the taste to identify actual, non-generic sugartrance.

It's something you deal with when dating--some of my Halo-playing friends whos opinions I want to invalidate have ended up being cool people, despite somewhat questionable videogame preferences. I've actually turned them onto game series they never would've tried, and vice versa--so glad an XBoxer showed me the Battlefield games and gave me a mini-tutorial--I quite enjoy them now.

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Adam

59. Posted:

Battlefield on PSN was a surprisingly engaging demo. We should go out some time.

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grenworthshero

60. Posted:

I guess the only option is for all of us to turn gay.

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