Topic: A warning for male gamers with girlfriends...

I know what girls are, they cook me dinner.

All of a sudden, online dating doesn't sound so awkward anymore.

My ex is maybe one of these women, although I am the one who broke up with her over this as she wanted me to spend ALL my free time with her. We constantly fought about this and I couldn't stand it anymore. I mean I understand we needed to spend more time together and obviously more than the time spent playing video games, but it seemed like every time I booted up one of my game systems she freaked out. Lol I guess that shows I need to find a woman who is at least mildly interested in them or will tolerate them so they don't freak out when I want to play sometimes.

This is funny cause I tell my girlfriend she's cutting into my Call of Duty time to annoy her. lol

In most cases though I imagine the girls are just being excessively needy or the guy is playing WAY too much games. And either way the person should have known that going into the relationship.

I mean there's no way a couple spends every second of the day together so it shouldn't be hard to fit in an hour of time for each to have to themselves.

Moral of the story: stay single

my girl's cool with it. so........... no worries here, bro.

online gaming has a lot to do with this. The feeling of not being "allowed" to quit is more present than in any form of solo gaming (even RPGs with hours between save points--cause quitting doesn't let anyone else down) -- and trying to make that point to someone who isn't a gamer is just a losing battle.

@WaltzElf: That technique wouldn't work for me. She'd probably get a clue REALLY fast when she saw me wearing one of my many video game shirts.

@Swerd_Murd: You have a good point. When you game online, especially with a group that meets regularly, it becomes something that's a LOT harder to stop in favor of spending time with a girlfriend than just playing solo all the time. Works out for me, 'cause I VERY rarely play anything online.

I do personally believe in dating at least somewhat geeky girls (as if I had SOOOOO much experience). Just seems easier that way. They don't have to be the same KIND of geek, mind you. If she wants to geek out about one thing and you another, you can just be nice and listen to each other! That's what my friend and I do, and it works great! If it works for really close friends, I see no reason it shouldn't work in a romantic relationship (though that could just be my complete and utter lack of experience talking).

I usually only play games at night when my fiance is already in bed or whatever. She is cool with my videogame hobby, but If I sat around all day and played games and ignored her I would probably be dumped too

EDIT : @WaltzElf : That is pretty much my story too, when we first started going out she really didn't know I was so into videogames. That's just something that gradually I revealed. She pretty much hates video games too, other than Mario ones. She did like Animal Crossing though lol.

Nintendo Life - propagating negative stereotypes since 2007.

Good work on this one, guys.

Guy's...I think we can all agree.......we'd the choose games over the girls..................--awkward silence--....................

Actually, it is something that comes up, at least for me. It's part of my personality, and besides that, a lot of my wardrobe has video game-related stuff on it, so if you didn't know I was into games you'd have to be pretty slow.

@Prosody: Remember, stereotypes are not created in a vaccuum. Which is to say, some of us (myself included) ARE something along the lines of social outcasts and/or misfits, and to say we've never had girlfriends is simple fact. Is it sad? Sure, kinda; but there isn't a whole lot to be done about it, now is there?

I think the best thing we can say about the situation is that these guys aren't afraid to joke about their circumstances. That's a good sign, I think.

Yup, they might see the console when visiting, they might even see a pile of games on the shelf, but it's not until we move in together that they learn the true horror. Suddenly, I'll only able to squeeze an hour of gaming out of everyday (if I'm lucky).

I seem to be stuck in a loop. I live with a girl for 2 years, then spend a year single before repeating the process. In that year on my own, I have to catch up on all the gaming I missed when being 'considerate'.

I am resigned to the fact that I will never strike a balance. The two things I love the most, and they are at odds with one another.

Yeah I'm pretty sure this is how most girls are.

I have Call of Duty time and she has her Kindle time and if either of us just did that all day the other would be upset.

I think people are making it harder than it has to be to find a nice balance.

Finding the right balance is easy, I just have to play less games to do so. :/ Girl ftw!

Thank you! That's my point. I don't own any video game related clothes, but all my friends know I play video games. How you can keep your hobby a "secret" (or why) for 1 1/2 years is truly beyond me. It's part of who you are, and it's not like it's something to be embarassed about...

Actually my gf is cuttting around 20% of time I dedicate to videogames.

I've grown into my video game habit SINCE I've been married. I generally game after the kids are in bed and the wife is preoccupied with other things. For example, she does medical coding from home so while she's working, I'm gaming. We also game together as a family (Zakk and Wiki anyone?). My wife and I also play Guild Wars together so that's some quality video g...errrr... "bonding" time too.

Opposites attract, and more often than not the ladies I meet (that peak my interest) are from outside my usual circles. I'd love to get a gamer girl who likes watching sport and dorky sci-fi, but tbh... I'd get bored pretty quick. _{which is more to do with me than her}

Maybe if when I meet that perfect girl I'll see things differently.
_{edit: after numerous failed attempts that seems like a bit of a pipe dream :/}

Exactly. Well said that man.

Peeps, why do you all still live in 1994? Did none of you notice the Sony Playstation? Adults game now. It's not just sweaty, geeky males. It's a family experience. Even girls, yes even girls game. My Dad is 61, he plays games most days.

On these forums, you could be forgiven for not realising this is the case.

I suggest you all step into the time machine, turn the dial from 1994 to 2010, and snap out of it!

That is all.